After the exchange of rings, the officiant can then turn to the bonus (new,step) parent and ask this:
________, do you promise to be the very best parent that you can be to ______ (name(s) of child/children), to love ______, honor and cherish him/her/them? To be their (his/her) best friend and do your very best to be there for them/him/her when they need you?
Answer: I do. I promise you in love.
If you would like, you can have a small gift or gifts to give to the child/children at this time. They can open it there or wait until after the ceremony to do it.
Bonus (new/step) child/children: ______, do you promise to love, honor and cherish _______ (bonus parent), to be their best friend, to cooperate with _______ (bonus parent) and your mother/father, to help make this the very best family it can be?