Welcome! Thank you for finding our website! As a new wedding season is upon us I want to update some of my information in order to keep up with the times!
Marry Me in Indy truly is a “We.” It is not only me, Victoria Meyer, the founder of Marry Me In Indy! but the wonderful ladies I work with and the spirit of love that works through us. WE are truly a partnership.
When I started Marry Me In Indy! I had no idea what this would become and I’m blessed every day with each and every change. When I became an ordained minister through the mail many years ago it was kind of a joke. I thought it was funny. The email said “you too can officiate weddings and funerals and baptisms and naming ceremonies!” I became ordained on a whim but at the same time, I really liked having a piece of paper to show for the exploration and study of my own spirituality. I felt like I’d mastered at bit of something along the way. When I had 2 young children and needed money to pay for them this is what came to me and an I went with it. I started marrying people. I love it! And, with my children, it’s growing.
I thought that marrying people would always be a simple and happy occasion and joy filled! And, well, mostly it is. I have enjoyed the brides and grooms I’ve married. I’ve been honored to share in their wedding day. I’ve met families and wonderful people you consider family.
As my business has grown it as also changed quite a bit. I’ve learned a lot having experienced it first hand. We often use the “term for better or worse, in sickness and in health, til death do us part.” It took on new meaning for me this year as I married a couple at her father’s death bed. They had a newborn baby and they were saying goodbye to dad and pledging their love. I will ever be changed by that. I went on to officiate several weddings where there were terminal parents and the couples wanted to be married as soon as possible in order for their parents to physically be at their weddings. I officiated weddings where very special people had recently passed away which made it very difficult. I officiated one wedding that was cancelled due to cancer and then went on as planned with a mom in remission in attendance!
I’ve watched brides who had been beaten in their last marriage marry the beautiful, loving, devoted, dedicated and gentle grooms they deserve. I’ve watched men and women take responsibility for children that are not theirs by blood but theirs by love.
I started the $50 quickie which has opened me up to an entirely different view of marriage. The legal part. I am pretty sure I offer the cheapest wedding in the state in my home in Fishers. I’ve been so happy welcome couples and make it a romantic or meaningful day for them. I’ve welcomed couples from all over here on marriage visa’s. They needed to make it legal so they could file the proper paperwork to stay together before they celebrate their marriage with their families all over the world. I’ve helped couples easily make their marriages legal for so many important reasons. Insurance, taxes, custody battles. I’ve also helped couples have their quiet moment together, alone, to experience the exchanging of their vows in an intimate setting. I’m very happy to have helped couples with little money have a wonderful little wedding. I’ve seen widowers with small children marry women who hold their babies as their own.
I’ve even hosted a cameraman from Fox59 news! They were here on 11/12/13 but blast them for not mentioning my name or the name of my business!! LOL!!! At least they got a fabulous picture of my fireplace area.
I’ll be officiating my first prison wedding in January and I am very much looking forward to it. The bride is seriously considering joining us to be able to officiate more prison weddings as she has taken on a personal mission to help prisoners rehabilitate their lives, their relationships and to successfully re-enter society. As she knows first hand those that find themselves in prison are not always who we think they are. She is unconditional love. I look forward to introducing her when she is ready!
I am happy to call Marry Me In Indy! a Partnership. I’m still the chief businessperson as this really has turned into a full time job but Mikka Mabius and Aleks Pasalj as as much a part of this business as I am. They are my wonderful friends and have so much to offer. All three of us are open to everything and everyone. I have another webpage www.cherubimandseraphim1.com which very much deals with the angelic presense in our lives. But, please know that I am truly open to everyone and welcome non-religious ceremonies. I thrive on them because it is not religion that makes the world go round. It is the power of love and I hope the power of love is what you trust your marriage to! Religion can be a very confusing thing when it comes to having a wedding. We understand that. Atheists welcome!
All three of us have our specialties. But, please don’t limit us! I have a tendency towards stand-up comic at many ceremonies. I live to engage everyone at your ceremony so they feel involved and not bored. I want you to feel comfortable and as relaxed as possible during your ceremony and I also want your guests to feel the same way.
Mikka is a wonderful choice for large formal affairs. She is a gifted public speaker that can command a crowd as well has being gentle with a meaningful delivery. Mikka was raised Catholic and went to atheist and is now in a happy medium. She used to have a high powered HR position in a large company and left it to take care of her children. Her daughter has a chronic health condition and her son is amazing dealing with very high functioning autism. She has devoted her life to her kids and their journey is incredible. Her son just recently graduated from his autism program and is adjusting very well!! Mikka brings an amazing amount of compassion and understanding to life and your wedding.
Aleks is… just amazing! Aren’t we all? She grew up in communist Serbia. Her family’s culture is eastern orthodox. Yes, as I’m writing this the day after Christmas her children are still waiting for Santa to come on New Years Eve! Aleks holds dual citizenship with the United States and Serbia. Her communist upbringing has made her more of a secular humanist with the belief that we all need to look out for each other regardless of our own personal spiritual beliefs. Her husband is a Muslim from Libya and his family also resides here in Indiana. Their household revolves around the Muslim calendar and it is reflected often in their way of life. She is the founder of a soon to be non-profit organization called Foster Fairies. Aleks works with Child Advocates in Indianapolis helping to represent children in court. She is dedicated to helping these kids be successful in life. Each Christmas she masterminds new gifts for children in the system. They have open cases in the legal system and are either in foster care or living with family members until their situation with their parents can be resolved. She was able to collect new gifts for over 120 kids this past Christmas getting them what they asked for. She also works with kids as they are graduating from the system as they turn 18 and are on their own. With Aleks around, they are never alone! She is a wonderful light in the world and truly open to all. She is a great choice to officiate your wedding and she doesn’t mind if you find her accent funny. Her light shines brighter!
If you are Hispanic or have a Hispanic family or large group at your wedding we welcome you. We don’t speak Spanish but Veronica does! Veronica is from Chile and her husband is from Venezueala. She is fully bi-lingual. She runs her own wedding officiant business with bi-lingual services. I want to make everyone aware of this because she is a wonderful addition to your Hispanic wedding ceremony. If we are all booked she is also a wonderful addition to any ceremony. I’m happy to refer her. http://www.weddingofficiantindianapolis.com/ I want your parents and grand parents to understand the ceremony too. You do not have to settle!
Thank you again for visiting Marry Me In Indy. I welcome your questions. We realize that getting married is different for everyone. We can make it legal for you and we can also make it magical.
Marry Me In Indy! is in Indiana. Same sex marriages are not yet legal here however, because it is legal in other states many couples are traveling to other states to legally tie the knot and are returning to Indiana to celebrate with family and friends. We are very happy to officiate in these celebrations.
I first met my partner Kim when our boys were in preschool. I was getting ready to married two ladies and we found out we both officiate weddings. Kim said she actually decided to become ordained so she could be available to officiate same sex ceremonies because it needs to be done! Yep, we've been friends since. Thing is? Neither of us are gay. We don't have a lot of gay friends. But, we are open and when couples go searching for help with any sort of alternative wedding they are happy to find us.
I have to admit. I must come off as really ignorant sometimes. At least I hope it's received as ignorance that can easily be corrected with a little information. I'm trying and I know that counts for something. My only personal goal or life mantra is to "love one another." And when you find love in any form that you cherish it for what it is. The first two ladies I married were an interesting couple. One was a lesbian and her wife was simply in love. She said she is strait and is still very attracted to men. However, she just wanted to spend the rest of her life with her wife. She had been married and even has grand children but she met the love of her life and that was that.
I never really realized first hand the challenges involved in living an alternative lifestyle. Did you know that in Samoan culture it is traditional to raise one son as a female? I sat and planned a wedding with a couple and he is Samoan and his brothers were raised this way. Twins. They are transgendered. Interestingly enough, they are having a large wedding party and two of them men are bridemaids and two women are groomsmen. They are all family members. I officiated a transgendered wedding in the fall and for the first time I realized it wasn't really just a guy in drag. He was most definitely a she at heart and they both looked lovely in their dresses.
We are really coming a long way as a society in America. I'm happy that me and my associates and I here at Marry Me in Indy! can be a part of it. Please accept our open hearts and open minds when choosing an officiant for your wedding. We hope we can deliver.
Below is a wedding I wrote with two gentlemen who are marrying this summer. I learned a lot talking with them and this is the ceremony that transpired. I think it is rather profound. It's the only word I can come up with.
I TAKE YOU TO BE MY HUSBAND FOR LIFE....Welcome family and friends! Thank you for joining Matthew and Christopher today as they speak their vows to each other and enter in the journey of marriage. Their marriage.
I'm here as the wedding officiant. However, no priest, rabbi or legal official really has anything to do with what marries two people or what makes a marriage successful. A marriage is two separate people bringing all that they are and sharing themselves. They are committing to share themselves and to accept the other in all things. So what does that really mean?
When I was first contacted by Matthew he said they were going to NYC to be legally married and that they were throwing a party for family and friends back here in Indiana. But, the more they thought about it, the more they wanted an actual wedding ceremony to confirm and share their love and to make a vow to each other in front of those they cared for the most.
I've got this great job. Not only because I'm around people in love sharing the best day of their life to date....but, oh the stories I could tell! The drama, the crazy people in the prospective families. I Pride myself in being open to marry anyone however they want to be married.
When the three of us sat down to talk about this wedding I asked them why they were going to another state to get married if it has no legal meaning in Indiana. Matthew explained that he has always considered New York to be a second home, spending summers for the past 30 years at the family vacation home in the Adirondack Mountains, both parents born in NY, and family who still live in NY. However, what stands out to me most about our conversation was that this is not a commitment ceremony. It is a marriage. They are not seeking to become partners in life they are becoming one as husband and husband. I don't know about you, but I find this profound.
When I asked about parents I was surprised to hear all the parents would be here tonight. That is not as common as you may think. Be it a gay or straight marriage. But Matthew and Chris explained that they were raised in an open, loving environment. Both sets of parents have been together since they first married. Chris and Matthew have seen first hand what long and lasting love and commitment truly mean!
This is love. This is open hearts and open minds. This is what raised Matthew and Chris. This is what makes them them who they are. This is what the two of you bring to your marriage. Yeah! Thank you everyone here!
Chris & Matthew said they would like to include some readings from civil rights and gay rights history that are important to them. One reading comes to mind almost instantly. That is the decision given by Massachusetts Supreme Court Chief Justice Margaret H. Marshall which ushered in a new era in 2004 when that State became the first in this country to legalize same-sex marriage. It truly speaks to what is important to these two men:
“Marriage is a vital social institution. The exclusive commitment of two individuals to each other nurtures love and mutual support; it brings stability to our society. For those who choose to marry, and for their children, marriage provides an abundance of legal, financial, and social benefits. In return it imposes weighty legal, financial, and social obligations….Without question, civil marriage enhances the “welfare of the community.” It is a “social institution of the highest importance.” ... Marriage also bestows enormous private and social advantages on those who choose to marry. Civil marriage is at once a deeply personal commitment to another human being and a highly public celebration of the ideals of mutuality, companionship, intimacy, fidelity, and family…. Because it fulfils yearnings for security, safe haven, and connection that express our common humanity, civil marriage is an esteemed institution, and the decision whether and whom to marry is among life’s momentous acts of self-definition.”
I love this right before the vows
by Robert Fulghum
"You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of
commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way. All those conversations that were held riding in a car or over a meal or during long walks - all those sentences that began with "When we're married" and continued with "I will and you will and we will" - those late night talks that included "someday and somehow and maybe"- and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding. The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, "You know all those things we've promised and hoped and dreamed- well, I meant it all, every word." Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another- acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, and even teacher, for you have learned much from one another in these last few years. Now
you shall say a few words that take you across a threshold of life, and things will never quite be the same between you. For after these vows, you shall say to the world, this- is my husband, we are married, for life."
Chris, do you take Matthew to be your husband to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do you part?
Matthew, do you take Chris to be your husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do you part?
You say your vows here
Christopher and Matthew may you live happily ever after. May all your days be blessed with love and friendship. May each day and night of your lives be a new beginning.”
May your home be filled with laughter and the warm embrace of a summer day.
May you find peacefulness and beauty, challenge, and satisfaction, humor and insight, healing and renewal, love and wisdom, as in a quiet heart.
May you always feel that what you have is enough.
I now pronounce you husbands for life!
You may kiss the groom!
I've got a strange craving for wedding cake. Wedding cake ice cream, wedding cake cupcakes from Gigi's, actual wedding cake will do.
Lauren and Dave are super busy people who travel a lot on business. They are just plain super too! Lauren's mom called me to book their ceremony. I like her too!!! I was able to meet with the happy couple a few weeks later at a late night meeting at Starbucks. Hot Chocolate meeting at 9pm worked just fine!
They were married at The Skyline Club with an incredibly beautiful view. Oh My!! It's an incredible view!! It's also where Smiley and Sarah Brown from The Smiley Morning Show were married in October. (So funny, Lauren and Dave had no idea who they were.) The Skyline Club is on top of the One America Building in downtown Indianapolis. It's incredibly elegant and the perfect background for a wedding. The lights of the city and view are amazing. They were married as the sun was setting over the city and the reception started after night had settled in. The bridesmaids were dressed in glittery silver and grey to add to the electricity of the event.
I did do one interesting thing at the beginning of the ceremony. The bride really wanted to see all her friends walk in to "Here Comes the Sun" So, I video taped it with my phone. I do have the best view of the aisle from where I stand. There were lot's of pictures and video's being made and I wondered if it was my place to do it but why not? That's what the bride wanted! All the bridesmaids were her sorority sisters and very special to her.
Jacqui called and I was on my way to a wedding rehearsal. She was inquiring about getting married and prices etc... She called back a few days later and was ready to get married! I live in Fishers and it was a bit of a drive for them to come to my house. I was downtown officiating another wedding so we met at Starbucks. Yes, they were married at Starbucks. We had part of the long table.... Actually. Victor is on his way back to basic to the military and wanted to make it legal before he did. This was a secret wedding. Her mom and BFF's who were with them know. They are going to do it again later. :-)
Claire and Andrew area also know as Peter Pan and Wendy. Claire is a very sweet and petite British woman who was working in child care on Disney's "Ship of Dreams" when she met her prince - Andrew - The literal understudy for Peter Pan in the show on the ship! It was love at first site a magic every since. They were married at The Mavris. I Love the Mavris and Vanessa and Brttany. They really know how to plan and execute the perfect party right down the details.
Claire has been in England for the past year and Drew spent most of his year working on the cruise ship. Due to the beauty of the internet, everything worked out fine. I had a wedding last spring at the Mavris and emailed Claire right away to let her know that I'd met their planner, Brittany, and she was really wonderful and the building is just gorgeous. It totally made her day since she was in England and hadn't seen the Mavris yet.
We finalized all their plans when they were here in Indy together. Their ceremony had a few Disney references in it. They did a unity candle ceremony with a floating candle (like the ship they met on) You can read it here. They also wrote their own vows. They are a very cute, very n-sync couple who were dancing down the aisle at the rehearsal but at the actual ceremony Drew swooped Claire up and carried her down the aisle!!
It was a very special week for everyone. Claire's family came from Australia, her maid of honor from Scotland. Many of the guest were from out of town. It was a small group as far as weddings are concerned - about 50. But they were one very big happy family truly enjoying themselves and each other's company as well as the Mavris for their back drop.
Michelle and Andrew were married at the Crown Room in Brownsburg. It is a lovely venue. Stephanie was their event coordinator. She is very personable and accommodating. I liked her right away and she really knew how to get along with everyone from the bride and her mom and her 4 year old to the caterer and DJ and even calling vendors at the last minute to order what wasn't thought of before. It's a beautiful building. There is a bank downstairs but there are several rooms downstairs for the bridal party to prepare. There is an elevator and a beautiful staircases perfect for pictures. There is a two story entry with a large chandelier that adds to the elegance. The Crown Room specializes in parties of 150 or less. The dance floor easily makes a great place for chairs for a ceremony with a stage for the bridal party. They are a family run business that really thought of everything right down to a baby grand piano and fire place.
Michelle and Andrew are a very special couple. Michelle has a little girl from a previous relationship and they also have a "son" that they've taken simply because he needs a home and they can provide it. He was Andrew's best man. Michelle's daughter was the flower girls and dressed in a beautiful white dress just like her mommies! They performed a unity candle to unite the whole family. Parents and grand parents, children and parents. The were surrounded by a wonderful group of friends and family. They were married on New Years Eve and I wish them all the happiness in the new year!
If you are looking for a reasonably priced venue that is both elegant and very comfortable I'd highly recommend Stephanie and the Crown Room!
Matt and Jenn were married at the Palomino Ballroom in Zionsville. Or is that Westfield? Officially it's Westfield Hamilton County but if you walk across the Street you are in Zionsville, Boone County. I need to know these things to make your marriage legal when filling out your paperwork... Either way, it is out in the country and was a beautiful drive with the snow on the ground. It's quick drive up Route 31 from Carmel or downtown or up Michigan Road through Zionsville.
The Palomino is really VERY nice. You can have small weddings or very large weddings. There's a bar and a very nice room with a large fireplace which was great for pictures and for hiding bride from groom. You can also hold a small wedding right there if you like. Jenn and Matt had both their ceremony and reception here. They used a curtain to divide the room so they could have formal seating for the guests for the ceremony. Everyone moved to the room with the fireplace for cocktails and appetizers while they set the room up for dinner. Jenny - the wedding coordinator is AWESOME! She knows her job well and is very personable and easy to get along with.
Jenn and Matt were married at 6:30. It's such a beautiful time of year and day. There were candles everywhere. They used candles instead of flowers to decorate the platform where were performed the ceremony. The aisle was lined with candles and flower petals. Very, very romantic! They chose a simple ceremony with a hand ceremony and a box ceremony. I love how the simple words take on so much meaning. The two of them are also avid golf players so we added a few golf mentions to keep it light. Their music was perfect.
I thought this was a really neat idea! Instead of a guestbook they had everyone sign a Christmas tree skirt as a memory of their Christmas holiday wedding. They had all sorts of fabric pens - a lot was said about signing with a glitter pen!