There are more choices then you may have ever imagined for wedding vows. Sometimes, a couple doesn't even speak them, the officiant does. The commitment comes from the heart.
I am finding myself writing vows lately that I speak instead of the bride and groom needing to speak them. Or, they will also say their vows but I say much of the vows. I LOVE this and the reasons vary. First of all, nerves, There is so much involved in a wedding and nerves can really put you over the top. Second, You get to enjoy the moment looking at each other and taking in the words and the experience in the moment. It's more romantic and meaningful. You can hold hands and allow it to wash over you. Here are some links to weddings where this has been done: Mollie and Zach, Anja and Ronnie - This one works really well the way the reading flows into the vows. It's short, sweet, intelligent and says a lot. This one includes an updated version on the 7 Jewish Blessings that I think would work in just about any ceremony where you wan to mention God. The vows have a few surprise options too. - S&E And, last, but not least, There is Spider Monkey and Brat Monkey Yes, they wrote that themselves. We had a fantastic first meeting as they were looking for someone insanely crazy enough to fit in with their family. It's a very "interesting" ceremony but I wrote it and I think it rocks!! (so do they!) Then, there is the Zombie Apocalypse.....
Sir, Yes Sir!
Do You Tim, solemnly swear (or affirm) That You WILL SUPPORT AND DEFEND THE Institution OF Marriage AGAINST ALL ENEMIES, FOREIGN AND DOMESTIC; or in tight jeans. THAT you WILL BEAR TRUE FAITH AND ALLEGIANCE TO Lori; AND THAT you WILL OBEY THE covenant OF marriage with the understanding that the husband is not appointed over the wife just as the wife is not appointed over the husband. Do you promise to Honor and love Lori in sickness and in health, in good times and bad times, Do you promise to cherish her as your most beloved ACCORDING TO THE REGULATIONS AND THE UNIFORM CODE OF love and JUSTICE. SO HELP you GOD?
Yes, I do, Yes Ma'am, I will
The Zombie Apocalypse
Excerpt from “Scientific Romance” by Tim Pratt Megan: If we were the sole survivors of a zombie apocalypse and you were bitten and transformed into a walking corpse I wouldn't even pick up my assault shotgun, I'd just let you take a bite out of me, because I'd rather be undead forever with you than alive alone without you. Jon: If I became lost in the multiverse, exploring infinite parallel dimensions, my only criterion for settling down somewhere would be whether or not I could find you: and once I did, I'd stay there even if it was a world ruled by giant spider- priests, or one where killer robots won the Civil War, or even a world where sandwiches were never invented, because you'd make it the best of all possible worlds anyway, and plus we could get rich off inventing sandwiches.
Purdue Vs. Notre Dame
[Kristi and Sean pick up the ND and Purdue cups] Sean, do you promise to:
Let Kristi organize and re-organize the house as she sees fit
Make all the household decorating decisions
Listen to most of the details of most of her stories,
and cheer for Notre Dame at every game (except when they are playing Purdue)?
Sean: “I do”
Kristi, do you promise to let Sean:
Let Sean record every sporting event he attends and watch it over again when he gets home
Make all the household technology decisions
Listen to most of the details of most of his golf games,
and cheer for Purdue at every game (except when they are playing ND)?
Kristi: “I do”
[K&S exchange cups, clink them and take a drink. Victoria sets them off to side - out of picture]
I Promise, by Dorothy R. Colgan
I promise to give you the best of myself and to ask of you no more than you can give. I promise to respect you as your own person and to realize that your interests, desires and needs are no less important than my own. I promise to share with you my time and my attention and to bring joy, strength and imagination to our relationship. I promise to keep myself open to you, to let you see through the window of my world into my innermostfears and feelings, secrets and dreams. I promise to grow along with you, to be willing to face changes in order to keep our relationshipalive and exciting. I promise to love you in good times and bad, with all I have to give and all I feel inside in the only way I know how. Completely and forever.
Michael Jordan and Juanita R. Vanoy
Marriage is not only a commitment between lovers; it is also an agreement between two friends. Allow each other time to be an individual, respect each other's wishes as well as their dreams.
Selfishness has no place in a lasting relationship. Happiness is what each of you should seek for the other. Ask less for yourself than you are willing to give. Love can be shown by a word or touch or two thoughts entwined as one. In every relationship, trust is very important; never break that trust.
With this ring I thee wed, pledging to you all my love and faithfulness forevermore.
As we stand beside the ocean tide, may our love always be as constant and unchanging as these never-ending waves that pour beneath our feet, flowing endlessly from the depths of the sea; your love came softly upon my heart, just as the foam comes softly upon the sand, and just as there will never be a morning without the ocean's flow, so there will never be a day without my love for you. I pledge myself to you this day. Our love will be as unchanging and dependable as the tide; as these waters nourish the earth and sustain life, may my constant devotion nourish and sustain you until the end of time.
We must love each other, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of our souls. We must fill each other's cup, but drink not from one cup. Give each other our bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of us be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give our hearts, but not into each other's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain our hearts. And we stand together yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.
I Love You, by Roy Croft
I Love You, Not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you, not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out. I love you for putting your hand into my overflowing heart and passing over all the foolish, weak things that can't help, dimly seeing there, and for drawing out into the light all thebeautiful belongings that no one else had looked quite far enough to find. I love you because you are helping me to make of the dreams of my life not a thought but a reality, Out of the works of my every day not a reproach but a song... Yes, a Love song.
Marilyn Monroe and Arthur Miller
We are here today to participate in a most joyous occasion, to celebrate one of life's greatest moments, by acknowledging the wedding of Arthur and Marilyn.
Arthur, do you take Marilyn to be your lawful wedded wife? Do you promise to love, honor, and protect her? Share the good times and achievements as well as the hard times and disappointments? Keep her in sickness and in sorrow and to be faithful to her forevermore?
Marilyn, do you take Arthur to be your lawful wedded husband? Do you promise to love, honor, and protect him? Share the good times and achievements as well as the hard times and disappointments? Keep him in sickness and in sorrow and to be faithful to him forevermore?
I give you this ring in token and pledge as a symbol of all that we share with my constant faith and abiding love.
Now that you have joined yourselves in matrimony, may you strive always to meet this commitment with the same spirit you now exhibit. We all bear witness to this ceremony you have just performed and you may now call yourselves by those old and respected names, husband and wife. May God bless this union. You may kiss the bride.
Away From You, by Sarah Brightman
Away from you there is no music, There is no sunlight, The world is gray. Away from you The clocks are frozen, And time's a traveler Who's lost his way. I'm half alive Until the moment The door swings open and you walk through, Now my soul is afloat On a melody of music That I could feel such joy I never knew. And so you see Why I can never be Away from you.
Elvis Presley and Priscilla Beaulieu
Marriage is an honorable estate. It is not to be entered into lightly or unadvisedly, but discreetly and soberly. Into this relationship these two persons come now to be joined. I ask you both that if you know any reason why you should not be joined in marriage, you make it known at this time.
Elvis, do you take Priscilla to be your wedded wife, to live together in bonds of marriage? Will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her, so long as you both shall live?
Priscilla, do you take Elvis to be your wedded husband, to live together in bonds of marriage? Will you love him, comfort him, honor and keep him, so long as you both shall live?
I, Elvis, take thee, Priscilla, to be my wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish.
I, Priscilla, take thee, Elvis, to be my wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish.
Inasmuch as you have consented together in marriage, by virtue of the authority vested in me by the laws of the state, I now pronounce you husband and wife.
From This Day Forward, by Marianne Williamson
From this day forward, You shall not walk alone. My heart will be your shelter, And my arms will be your home.
These I Can Promise, by Anonymous
I cannot promise you a life of sunshine; I cannot promise riches, wealth, or gold; I cannot promise you an easy pathway That leads away from change or growing old. But I can promise all my heart's devotion; A smile to chase away your tears of sorrow; A love that's ever true and ever growing; A hand to hold in yours through each tomorrow. Yes, I'll Marry You
Richard Gere and Cindy Crawford
We are gathered here in the sight of God to join together this man and this woman in holy matrimony. The love of God is an example for your devotion, and you are not left without guidance concerning the meaning of that love because God is love and love is all. A wedding ceremony is the perfect place to read from Corinthians. This is what God said love is: Love is patient and kind, knows no jealousy, gives itself no false airs or false pride. Never irritated, never resentful, love is neither glad when others go wrong or become hurt. Love is guided by goodness, always eager to believe the best, always hopeful.
Remember, anything beautiful that you have, came from God. In the beginning, God gave us our free will and our identity to walk this earth. Don't ever try to change each other, because if you do, you will lose exactly what you fell in love with. So, each day try to find one more thing that is beautiful in your mate, and each day know that the next day will be more beautiful than the one before. As long as you are doing this, you are seeking beauty, joy, and love in each other.
Richard, do you take Cindy to be your wedded wife? To have and to hold, to love and to cherish, in sickness and in health, in times of good and bad?
Cindy, do you take Richard to be your wedded husband? To have and to hold, to love and to cherish, in sickness and in health, in times of good and bad?
I, Richard, pledge to you, Cindy, as my friend, my love, and my companion to love, honor, and cherish as long as we both shall live.
I, Cindy, pledge to you, Richard, as my friend, my love, and my companion to love, honor, and cherish as long as we both shall live.
I give this ring in token and in pledge of my constant faith and abiding love with all that I am, and all that I will become.
BRIDE/GROOM, today I take you as my wife/husband. My feet shall run because of you. My feet dance because of you. My eyes see because of you. My mind thinks because of you. And I shall love because of you
I give myself to you to be your husband/wife I promise to love and sustain you in the covenant of marriage, from this day forward, in sickness and in health, in plenty and in want, in joy and in sorrow, as long as we both shall live.
We entered into each others lives and experienced love and happiness. Today I am confirming my promise for all of my life to love and respect you, to be faithful and honest with you, to give you encouragement, strength and trust, to stand together in our times of joy and of sorrow. I pray that our home will be one of love and understanding and patience ... not to remain the same, but to grow better and stronger with the passing of time, and through the love we have for one another. Our lives have become joined with the times we have shared, and will be more complete by the memories ahead, ready to be made. I am promising from this day forward that I will be your husband, to walk with you throughout all your tomorrows. I love you.
BRIDE, you have been my friend since my heart began to beat. I have loved you since you entered into my conscious thought. I promise to care for you and protect you forever and forever. I wish to be your guiding light and be near you this day until I draw my last breath. I promise to cherish you daily and walk through the trials of life by your side. I am taking your hand to testify my love to you and others here, that we may be united in truth and honesty.
GROOM, my heart skipped a beat the first moment I saw you. I have come to know you and respect you. I wish to care for you and enjoy life with you. I will be you shelter in your time of sorrow and pain. I will be your friend and guide in time of worry. I will be yours and yours only, through the good and bad. I am taking your hand to testify my love to you and others here, that we may be united in truth and honesty.