I hear my Beloved. See how he comes leaping on the mountains, bounding over the hills. My Beloved is like a gazelle, like a young stag. "My dove, hiding in the clefts of the rock, in the coverts of the cliff, show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet and your face is beautiful." The Song of Songs. Thank You friends and family for being here today. Thank you for coming to the marriage of Kyle and Samantha. We are happy and blessed for those who have came from far and wide to honor friendship and celebrate and thank you to Dad and Gail for use of the farm! And - Thank you to the Dog for keeping watch! I suppose we should also thank the chickens for sharing their space less then be put off.
Samantha asked me specifically for a surprise opening. I love a challenge. I also loved getting to know these families a little better last night. Hey, we are already facebook friends! My friends are already liking my pictures of them! They definitely wanted to have a reading from Robert Fulgham All I really Need to know I Learned in Kindergarten. So, I thought I’d start there. Robert Fulgham points out: Most of what I really need To know about how to live And what to do and how to be I learned in kindergarten. Wisdom was not at the top Of the graduate school mountain, But there in the sandpile at Sunday school.
These are the things I learned: (And, May I add, This is how they apply to marriage) Share everything. That goes without saying, You are married now. The remote, your Rickerpop, Bandwith, paychecks and diaper duty Don’t forget, feelings, hopes, dreams, desires and many hugs and kisses. Play fair. Yes, even when you are not perfect, as none of us are, remember there are two sides to every story and both sides are real and indeed valid! It is not an argument you are trying to win. It is an understanding you are trying to find and with that comes a deeper and truer love. You are no longer children. This is an adult relationship to last a lifetime. Don't hit people. Well, that goes without saying. Remember the dog, back there... And Samantha- he has brothers... Put things back where you found them. You know, toothpaste tops, car keys, Wouldn’t hurt to fill up the gas tank if you borrow the car. Always put the kids car seats back where you found them! Clean up your own mess. This is not only referring to socks or dishes. If you did something to make the other person upset, make amends. It’s easier to clean it up right away then to allow it sit sit and fester. Better a sponge a paper towel or a Chlorox wipe, even a mop or vacuum cleaner. It beats an exterminator, a drywaller or a fire truck if you let the mess fester. Don't take things that aren't yours. I could joke and refer to the last beer or cookie but in reality:
Remember that you are two becoming one today in marriage but that you will always be two distinct individuals that come together to make yourselves better by your union and what makes that great is the two of you as individuals. Always allow the other to be themselves and learn from them, allow them to make you better because of who they are. By allowing each other to grow as individuals you will bring bigger and better into your marital mix. Say you're sorry when you hurt somebody. This would also go back to the cleaning up your mess part.
Wash your hands before you eat.
Take a shower, shave, brush your teeth for- well, you know what I mean... Flush. With that, let it go. There are things you will continue to learn about each other. The good and the interesting. If it is less then good, come to terms with it and then let it go. Flush it away and move on. It also has to do with forgive and forget. Just let it go. Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you. Kyle, remember this is especially true during pregnancy. And Samantha, remember this on Christmas Eve when Kyle is trying to put the doll house of a million pieces together. Live a balanced life - That includes the check book Learn some and think some And draw and paint and sing and dance Start today, on your wedding day and then remember to do it every day. Dance around the kitchen or the bathroom. Make your life a dance to enjoy. And play and work everyday some. And, may your work, be play Take a nap every afternoon. And not only on your honeymoon, but remember to love each other every day as you love each other on your honeymoon. When you go out into the world, Watch out for traffic, And remember that traffic can do all sorts of things. Make sure you are always watching out for each other, keep each other safe. Be each other’s best friend and know when to push each other to be better and know when to let go. And know when to pull each other out of harms way!! This is the most intimate of relationships, you will deal with so many things. Don’t sweat the small stuff, but don’t ignore it either. Hold hands and stick together. And may you be a very old couple holding hands walking down the street that make people stop and think about and talk about how cute you are! And Lastly: Be aware of wonder. Be aware of the wonder that each of you are. The wonder of your marriage. The wonder of your family if you are blessed with children and the wonder of how much more amazing life is because you are married. It is a sacred union that you are not entering into lightly.
You did indeed learn all these things in kindergarten. But today, you begin a whole new part of your adult life where you are called on to apply all that you have learned. To Keep it simpler: Roses are Red Violets are Blue Sugar is sweet And so Are you
Samantha’s Sister Dee Anna will now read: I want to be yours by, John Cooper Clark
Samantha and Kyle Exchange their own vows They have written their own vows
Ring Exchange At 3am, Samantha was writing her vow and Hey Jude came on the radio. She loves the Beetles and she took it as her sign. John, Paul. George and Ringo are life changers - simple wisdom. John 15:17 Love One another Paul, In his Letter to the Romans: Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. George Harrison - Sang “Love me Do” And Ringo? The rings go around your finger! Todd has the Rings
As God is a circle whose center is everywhere and whose circumference is nowhere, so let the seamless circle of these rings become a symbol of the timeless dimension of unconditional Love. May the presence of these rings continue to remind you of the eternal love and devotion you are to share with one another from this moment onwards. May the beauty and perfection of these rings remind you of the beauty of your togetherness and the perfection of this union you are sanctifying in this perfect moment.
Please repeat after me:
Samantha, with this ring I pledge to you my eternal and unconditional love. Kyle, with this ring I pledge to you my eternal and unconditional love
The Beer Box Ceremony Yes, a beer box This is not a keg for all to share or a new carton to crack open. Kyle and Samantha have chosen to perform a box ceremony today. The box is sort of like time capsule. They have written letters to each other about how they feel about each other today with their hopes and dreams. They have copies of their vows and each have chosen a small trinket that will be funny to remember 5 years from now. Since they wanted me to write the ceremony I’ve made an extra copy of it to add to the box. They also have a bottle of beer One, nice big bottle of beer. Why Beer you may ask? This isn’t just any beer. Kyle brews his own and this is a very special home brew. It’s a 5 year stout. It will take 5 years to reach it’s maturity. In 5 years they can open the box, enjoy the beer, read the words they have written and celebrate their 5th anniversary. At least that’s the plan. Another way to look at this is if their marriage ever reaches that point of what seems like no return they will then open it and drink the beer and realize why they chose to marry to begin with to try and re-kindle, remember or figure out their current problem. It’s true, many find it a good idea to have a drink, chill out, calm down and try and figure things out. This is their emergency alcohol box. There are so many things that we can say that are serious or funny. A beer box? That comes off as kind of funny and light hearted. This ceremony is often done with a bottle of good wine or whisky. When I asked them what happens if the beer’s not ready yet? Samantha said “If you have to open the box before 5 years you deserve bad beer!”
Excellent point wouldn’t you say? But, what about the need for that drink? How about this? If you ever find yourself in need - Open the box, read the letters, put them back in - or better yet? Write new letters, put them back in the box and then when the beer’s ready. Enjoy! Couple puts the contents in the box and nails it shut They are nailing it shut to make it a little harder to open.
Closing May you be blessed by God. May you be touched by angels. May your hearts stay full, may your spirits stay connected, and may you love long and happily in one another's arms.
I Now Pronounce You: Husband and Wife You may kiss the bride!
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