Reverend Victoria Meyer is the owner of Marry me In Indy LLC and has been marrying couples in Indiana for over 7 years. She's been married over 26 years, has 2 sons with special needs and a dog and a cat.
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Did you wake up this morning and decide to get married? It happens! Congratulations!! Some people plan ahead, some people act on impulse. If it's a weekday and not a holiday, you can get married today in Indy. There is no waiting period. Click here to apply online. You will need to apply online in just about any county in Indiana. You can apply online before you go to the clerks office or you can use their computers when you get there. Be sure to bring proper ID. A valid driver's license or a passport. If you live in Indiana bring proof of you current address. If you have the correct address on your driver's license you are set. If not, bring a utility bill. Divorced? Bring your certified divorce decree. The fee is $18 if you are an Indiana resident. Coming from out of state? The fee is $60. Certified copies are $2 each.
Once you have your marriage licesne you will need someone to marry you. A preacher, a pastor, a judge or a wedding officiant. A wedding officiant is the easiest option. That's what I do! I can meet your at the courthouse and marry you. I can perform a simple, Justice of the Peace style ceremony or, meet me on Monument Circle for an a romantic elopement! Click here to book your appointment now!
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Getting married in the state of Indiana is a rather simple process. It doesn't take much to get a marriage license and sign it. Just remember, it will take a whole lot more to unto the marriage license through divorce.
Where do I get a marriage license? The County Clerk
Marriage licenses in Indiana are issued by the county clerk in each county. Each county may have slightly different rules. Contact your county clerk to ask them any questions you might have. As a wedding officiant, I have a lot of answers to a lot of questions. But please, don't take my word for it. You can read the information on the state's website and call the clerk directly for specific questions. Here is a link to the Indiana's online marriage application with the specific information you will need.
What County Clerk to I go to?
If you are a legal resident of Indiana you will need to pick up your marriage license from the county you or your fiance legally reside in. For example, if you both live in Marion County, you must go to Marion County Clerk to pick up your marriage license. If one of you lives in Marion County and the other lives in Hamilton County, you can pick up your license in either county. This license issues to Indiana residents is good anywhere in the state.
What if I'm not an Indiana resident?
If neither of you are Indiana residents you must pick up your marriage license from the clerk in the county in which you are going to be married. You cannot be an out of state resident, pick your marriage license up in Hamilton County and then get married in Marion County. The license must be signed in the county in which it was issued.
How old do I have to be to get married?
You must be 18 to be issues a marriage license in Indiana. If either applicant is 17 their parents or guardians must be present to give consent. If either applicant is younger then 17 they will need to obtain a court order to be able to get a marriage license.
Is there any reason I would not be issued a marriage license?
Yes! You cannot be drunk or high. You cannot marry your first cousin unless you are over the age of 65. You must also be of sound mind. That mean, you are legally sane.
Want more legal info? Here is the link to the Indiana State Codes regarding marriage.
When should I pick up my marriage license?
Your marriage license is good for 60 days from the day it's issued. You can get married right away or any time within the next 60 days. There is no waiting period. If your Indiana marriage license expires you can apply for another one. If you loose it before it expires, you can get another copy.
What kind of ID do I need?
You will need a current (not expired), valid drivers license or state ID OR a passport OR a birth certificate. If the document is not in English it will need to be legally translated into English. The translated document will also need to be notarized.
If you are unsure about these documents, call the clerk to ask to be sure! You will also need to prove your address if are in Indiana resident. If you drivers license has your current address on it, that's all the ID you will need. If the address on your driver's license is incorrect, you will need a utility bill or a lease or another suitable document.
You will need to provide your social security number.
If you are divorced, you will need to know the date your divorce was finalized. Some counties require a certified copy of the divorce decree.
You will need to provide the full name, last known address and place of birth of your parents. This information is reported to the Indiana State Library (by law) for the purpose of genealogical research. If you don't honestly know the answers, that's OK. You will have to swear all the information you provide on the marriage license is correct to your best knowledge.
How much does it cost?
If one or both of the applicants is an Indiana resident the fee is $18. (two people, one license, one fee.) If you are both out of state residents the fee is $60. Certified copies of your marriage license are $2 each. Bring cash to be sure. If the county accepts credit cards they will charge a fee. Marion County accepts cash or card. Hamilton County only accepts Cash.
Other things to know.
You BOTH have to go to the county clerk in person to pick up the marriage license. Just because you apply online doesn't mean they will just mail it to you. A marriage license is a very serious legal document.
You can apply online before you go to the clerk's office or you can use the computer they provide in the Clerk's office. Either way, you will be applying online.
They will never ask you if you love each other or plan to spend the rest of your lives together before they issue you a marriage license. Do me a favor, think about it before you go and ask yourself the questions and seriously consider the answers.
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The formal definition of "elope" it to run away secretly to get married, especially without parental consent. But, I think it can mean many things. I think of it as a quick, romantic, short and sweet wedding. I love them. I think they are exciting and romantic.
I’ve listened to many elder Indiana couples, usually grandparents of couples I’m marrying, tell the stories of the day they got married 50+ years ago. One couple remembers going to a farm where the person marrying them lived. They were out working in the garden. They told them to wait 10 minutes and the officiant reappeared dressed in a suit and his wife in a dress. They got married in their living room. It took all of a few minutes. When the officiant was done he said “if that don’t stick Y’all come back and we’ll do it again!” I love that and I’ve said it more than once at the end of an appropriate ceremony. I definitely used it at the end of their granddaughter's wedding that day. It was a plain and simple wedding. It’s simply the way things were done then.
I’ve definitely had my share of secret weddings. Sometimes they just want to make it legal for now and they will have a big wedding later. There have been more than one religious couple that has come to get married very secretly before their pastor marries them later. And yes, it has been so they can consummate the marriage a little earlier than the actual wedding night. It’s not a bad idea if you think about it. There is a lot of stress on your white wedding day without being stressed out about the wedding night. Every couple has their own way of doing things. They have their own beliefs. We often say during a ceremony that a marriage is the most intimate of relationships. Marriage is when you share all of yourself. Over time, the sex part gives way to a strong, intimate bond. That bond can be based on any number of things. For many couples, it’s based on faith in a higher power. For others, it’s faith in each other and the life they are building and living together. Married couples share each other’s secrets and they are partners in the same crime. 20 years later they may tell their kids about it, maybe they won’t. But it will always be theirs together.
If you choose to get married or elope in secret it can be for all the right reasons. I don’t think there are many shotgun weddings these days or family feuds for that matter. But a wedding can be stressful. Families might have certain expectations. Disagreements over the church and the ceremony, the venue, the budget, bridesmaid drama. Things that might be everything wonderful about one couple’s wedding may be a nightmare for another couple. Maybe your mom wants you to have the wedding she dreams of having for you instead of the wedding you really want. Spending a year or more not having fun planning a wedding you don’t really want can be a really bad way to start a marriage. Sometimes the wisest thing to do is make your own decision and go with it.
I have performed over 1000 quickie elopements. I’ve married several members of the same family. One day I had a mother come to get married. I had married her daughter a few months earlier. The mother was not shy to say that she stopped talking to her daughter when she found out she got married without her. But she also said, as soon as her grandson was born a few weeks afterward all was forgiven. The wedding was a matter of minutes. The grandson and the family will be forever.
Sometimes couples start planning a big wedding with the best of intentions but it just starts to fizzle. Their income has to go to pay for life instead of deposits and final payments on a big meal they know people probably won’t enjoy and half of their family might not even show up. They come and just “get it over with.” Usually, a couple has already been living together for quite some time before the wedding. It’s really not that big of a deal. But, the two of you can make it a big deal for you. You can be relaxed and in the moment when you share your vows with each other. You can take a trip or rent a fancy hotel room and have a fancy dinner.
One couple came down from northern Indiana to have a quickie. It was just the two of them and their 2 children. The bride’s brother surprised her with an overnight at the Conrad Hilton! They had planned an inexpensive motel and were surprised with an awesome gift. Their kids got to swim in the pool and enjoy the luxury. That can be the perfect wedding.
If you want to elope and that’s always been your plan go for it! If you resign to eloping make sure you make it special. I’ve had couples stop at the grocery store to pick up a cheap bunch of flowers and the florist was on duty and put together a quick bouquet free of charge. People on the street will rejoice with you. More than once we’ve had people stop and watch with enthusiasm and enjoyment a quick wedding on the canal. Sometimes, simple, intimate celebrations are the stuff that real memories are made of.
Questions? Want to book your elopement? Contact me!
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Should I hire a professional wedding officiant or should I have a friend marry us?
This is a great question! I recently came across this questions on a wedding forum. The bride is having a small wedding of about 40 people in a restaurant. She has 4 family members or friends who could marry them. She is trying to decide if she should choose one of them or hire a professional. In my opinion, there is no right or wrong answer, there is only the best answer for each couple.
As a professional wedding officiant, the most logical answer would be to say anything to produce business. But, I perform an enormous number of budget weddings so I understand the needs of couples getting married and have created services with prices to reflect those needs. I might do one or two large weddings a weekend during the busier wedding months but I perform budget weddings just about every day of the year. I pay for my groceries and other household expenses one $40 Quickie at a time. I’ve got perspective on the subject.
First of all, in order to get married it’s just a legal document that you need to get from the county clerk’s office and then you need to have the legal document - the marriage license - signed. You need a person that can legally sign the paper. As an ordained minister, I can do that. Indiana is now full of ordained ministers for the sake of marrying couples. It’s a signature on a piece of paper. A wedding is something completely different.
Several years ago, I had some of my friends and neighbors performing weddings. I started as a stay at home mom trying to generate some extra income so I offered the same opportunity to them. I had one neighbor that has a degree in drama from IU. She can literally “perform” a wedding ceremony. Tell her what kind of wedding officiant you want and she can do that. It’s acting. My husband’s boss was having a destination wedding. We were unable to travel to marry them at their destination so I signed their marriage license with them over lunch before they left. They were legally married. Then, they had a friend perform the ceremony at their destination. Their friend had a wonderful time with it. He was preparing and practicing and it was awesome. They knew he would be great at it when they asked him and he was thrilled to have the opportunity!
Anyone can “perform” a ceremony. A religious leader may perform rituals in a religious ceremony that they are qualified to do within their religion that marries you within that religion. The state gives that religious leader the legal ability to make your marriage legal in the eyes of the state, however you are not required to have a religious ceremony in order to be legally married. You have a choice. I’m an ordained minister and that allows me to legally marry couples. The church that ordains me does so to promote religious freedom. There are no requirements so I can, and do, perform all types of ceremonies. I perform mostly romantic ceremonies that don’t invoke God in any way. A lawyer or a judge usually does the same thing.
If your wedding ceremony is very important to you and you want to orchestrate a formal ceremony with a large bridal party you need a person that is capable of doing that. A wedding officiant can do that, a wedding planner can do that, a friend or relative can do that. It depends on your experience. If you are having a large formal wedding ceremony and reception you most likely want to hire a professional to make sure everything runs as smoothly as possible. If you don’t want to do the research yourself, hire a professional to give you the information you need and organize your ceremony for you.
The ceremony itself is something different. A religious wedding is already written for you. You follow an service in a prayer book. All Catholics take part in the same ceremony. If you are not having a religious ceremony in a church you can have any sort of ceremony you want. There is an amazing amount of information on the internet as to how to put put together a wedding ceremony. I’ve gathered a lot of it, including wedding ceremonies that are already written. The information is there. If you read through a few ceremonies you’ll get an idea of what you want and don’t want in your ceremony. I give couples ideas and choices when I write their wedding ceremony. Many couples read it through and love it. It’s perfect. They choose a set of vows and they are done. I put that ceremony and many other ceremonies right on my website now. Anyone can read it, download it and use it. When I personalize a ceremony for a couple the couple needs to help me with that. I need to get to know enough about a couple in order to personalize a ceremony. Often, I will just point a couple in the right direction and they write the personal things themselves. I can’t write personal vows for you. I can point you in the right direction of how to express your feelings but only you can do that. Some couples already know exactly what they want. They give it to me to perform and that’s it. Sometimes I don’t even meet them before the rehearsal or the ceremony. I’m just the hired help.
If you are booking a wedding officiant many will make you book your wedding with them and put down a deposit before they will talk ceremony with you. They don’t want you to steal the ceremony and have someone else perform it. Chances are, they are using the same basic ceremony with every couple they marry. They create an illusion that they are doing something only they can do. I understand this. I’ve spent a lot of time with couples who just want ceremony information. I don’t make money off the conversations and it’s actually pretty hard to charge for the conversation. I’ve got all of it saved on my files so I decided to just to publish it on my website. It’s free to use. Some of it’s original, most of it is information I’ve gathered and put together in a new way. There are some officiants that do write a whole new ceremony for each couple. Some say it takes them quite a bit of time to do so. To be fair, it does take several hours to write an unique and personal ceremony. But is it necessary? Only you can decide.
I’ve had couples book me to officiate their ceremony and paid top dollar and specified they wanted a short, to the point ceremony. 7 minutes seems to be the magical number for many. One bride really just wanted to enjoy her very lavish party. Another couple was just too scared they would cry through the entire thing and wanted to avoid it. Both couples said they received compliments on the length of the ceremony. With that perspective, you might not find it necessary to hire a professional.
One big aspect you may want to keep in mind in how well the ceremony is performed. I know that I can perform my ceremonies well. I can invoke emotion and insert humor. On the opposite side of the spectrum, I’ve performed weddings by death beds of loved ones or in cancer units of hospitals. Humor wasn’t appropriate there. I’ve listened to friends or family members read a poem or passage and nobody could hear or the presentation was flat. Couples looking for a friend or family member to perform their wedding ceremony usually look for someone with a great personality.
Another perspective I’ve come across, actually pretty common in the bible belt, are couples who have several pastors in their family. They don’t know which one to choose so they hire someone. Often, the couple is not religious at all so they hire me to perform a secular ceremony and if they need to, can blame it on me. I’m OK with that. I want couples to have the ceremony they want. That’s my job.
Weddings always have the reputation for being expensive. Either you have money to spend on a wedding without thinking about it or you are watching every penny. The first questions from most couples is “how much?” You have to make a list of priorities and decide what you are getting for your money. There are professionals that charge a lot of money and may not deliver a spectacular ceremony. There are others that charge a lot less and love their job and deliver perfection.
It’s your ceremony. What do you imagine your ceremony to be and why? What do you really want? I had two weddings. One in my husband’s native Germany and another in the church I grew up in. The first one was in German and required a legal translator, the second was a disaster because the priest decided to be a real jerk. But honestly? In the end, all I really wanted was to spend the rest of my life with my husband. That was a commitment we had already made without words. The weddings were for legal reasons and because that is what I really thought I should do. I grew up in the church I wanted to be married in because “that’s what people do.” Looking back after 25 years it’s really not the ceremony, it was the time we spent together on our honeymoon, decorating our house and being together that mattered.
Should you hire a professional of have a friend or family member marry you? You marry each other.
Do you have more questions? Ask!
Reverend Victoria Meyer
Your Wedding Officiant in Indianapolis
Today, Tomorrow, Forever
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I have been a wedding officiant in Indianapolis for over 7 years. I marry all sorts of couples. One of the most common are couples who need to get married TODAY - The same day you pick your license up! Yes, some people plan a wedding for a year or longer and some people just need to get legally married today. No matter what the reason, I can help you with that! Same day weddings are very much a reality! When you get to the courthouse and they tell you they no longer marry couples you may be at a loss thinking How can I get married today? You planned on having a same day wedding. Not to worry. I can marry you today in Indy!
I've had couples call last minute because the officiant for the big wedding cancelled and they need someone now or because someone is deploying or sick and needs insurance or they are planning a destination wedding. Sometimes, people get up in the morning and decide they simply want to get married TODAY! A legal task or a romantic elopement. I can marry you!
I have to options that work for most people. The most popular is my Simple Ceremony in my home in Fishers. For $40 - the cheapest price in town for a professional wedding officiant - I will marry you. I'm available from 9-8 Monday through Friday's and Sunday's from 11-6. You do need to make an appointment but during the week couples often call from the courthouse and head up right away.
My second option is to meet you at the courthouse to marry you. You can't get married inside the courthouse but I meet couples outside and sign the papers and even perform a ceremony and take pictures if you like. It's probably the quickest and least expensive option in downtown Indianapolis. There other places that will marry you downtown in an office but their prices generally start at $99 and only one is within walking distance. They usually don't open until 9 or 10. I am able to met you at the courthouse to marry you at 8 when the clerk's office opens, if you like. My fee is $60 and I accept cash, card or PayPal. You can even ask the ladies in the clerk's office about me. I've married hundreds of couples and they can vouch for me!
If you need a same day wedding in Indy today contact me. Even on weekends!!
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The wedding chapel. It sounds like Vegas! Let’s go on down to the Chapel of Love! I don’t have a chapel. Having a physical chapel would add to the overhead of my business and it would make me have to charge couples more money to get married. I’m dedicated to keeping the simple act of becoming legally married affordable so I’ve chosen not to add any overhead to my business I don’t need. I do believe that wherever I marry you it can be a romantic experience if you choose for it to be. The world can be a chapel without walls. Incidentally, there are couples who choose to elope in Indy instead of Vegas. It's cheaper and easier!!
I offer a wide array of affordable wedding options. The least expensive being just for the two people being married. For a fee of $40 I can marry you in my home. This $40 option is probably the least expensive professional wedding officiant service in the Indianapolis area. It's the perfect budget wedding and over 1000 couples have been married in my home. I am obligated by law, and in accordance with Fisher’s City Ordinance to limit the number of people in my home for business. If you bring guests to your Simple Ceremony in my home they will be required to stay outside. You may have had friends or know people who have had larger weddings in my home in the past. I was unaware of the ordinance when I first started. I’ve been advised by the City of the ordinance and honor and obey it. The State of Indiana does not require witnesses in order to get married. If you want more people to watch you get married I offer other services that are still very competitively priced.
I offer a Get Married at the Courthouse option that is still a quick wedding but because it’s outside anyone can come and watch you get married. In public spaces we can’t stop traffic or set up chairs or music or anything like that. We can, gather and perform a simple wedding ceremony You will need to keep in mind that if it rains, I can still perform the service, however going inside a building is no longer a public place. For the three of us to sit down and sign your marriage license and make your marriage legal, that’s not a problem in a cafe or a restaurant right near the courthouse. If 10 or 20 of your closest friends and family want to join you then that is a totally different story. The Get Married at the Courthouse option is really just a cost effective service that serves as an alternative to other downtown options that perform the service to just legally marry you. I charge $60 for this option. There are other wedding officiants with offices downtown that charge right around $100. I offer this option to marry you for less. The other officiants downtown may only allow the two of you or up to 10 people inside their office. We are ordained ministers but we still have to follow building codes and city ordinances that limit how we can do business and where we can do business. If it rains and you would like me to marry you in another indoor place the appropriate fee will be charged for the service.
If you have a chapel picked out or have created your own chapel - either in your backyard, or an area that you have reserved or rented, I’m happy to marry you there. My fee to marry you either in your home or in a rented place for a small, quick wedding - which would be considered appropriate to a chapel wedding - the fee is $150 in the Indianapolis area. I’m happy to perform romantic, as well as spiritual or christian weddings.
When I think Wedding Chapel in Indy, I think of the romance of a quick elopement. I offer a great option called the Whirlwind Elopement. For $120 I can marry you at any of Indy's landmarks or monuments. Monument Circle, The War Memorial, along the canal, The Love Statue at the IMA. These are great places to elope. Just a quick ceremony is a lovely, memorable place. It's a great option if you want to invite friends and family but don't want to throw a big wedding or have a formal ceremony.
Do you have a place for your wedding and need someone to marry you? Contact me:
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When getting married in Indiana, the Justice of the Peace is usually the first thing that comes to mind you think about just going down to the courthouse to get married. The Justice of the Peace is a judge that generally performs weddings. In Marion County, Indiana you can no longer get married in the county clerk's office or even by a judge during regular business hours. That's OK. There other qualifications to be able to marry people. Marriages in Indiana may also be performed by clergy members such as ministers, priests, bishops, rabbi's or an imam. Weddings many also be performed by a judge, a magistrate, mayor, clerk of the circuit court, or a clerk or clerk-treasurer of a city or a town.
I am a legal wedding officiant because I am an ordained minister. What I do, as a business person, it make it easy for you to have the same quick, easy experience you would expect from a Justice of the Peace. I perform civil ceremonies and complete legal paperwork by appointment. Same day appointments are almost always available.
When you plan on getting married in Indy, plan on having me meet you by the clerk's office. I will be there when you pick up the license, finish the paperwork with you so you can go right back inside the clerk's office, file the papers and then walk away with your certified copies. It takes less then an hour for the entire process from start to finish. Make an appointment today. It's quick and easy. It can be a celebration or discreet transaction. I'm happy to marry you in Indy!
Here's a link to how to get married in Indy.
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There are many ways to get married, and just about as many ways as I can marry you. You can go to the courthouse and get married, You can book a Simple Ceremony in my home in Fishers, or you can have a traditional wedding ceremony. There is no right or wrong when it comes to a ceremony. I know that as a wedding officiant, I perform many tasks. I make marriages legal and I also perform the duties of a pastor. Not only do I perform christian wedding ceremonies, I've performed ceremonies in situations a typical wedding officiant may not be appropriate. I've performed weddings in the cancer wing of a hospital so that the grooms grandmother, a patient, could be present and sign the marriage certificate as a witness. I've performed weddings in homes by the beds of relatives that had "Do Not Resuscitate" because the bride wanted her father to give her away in marriage before he passed away. I've participated in Wish Upon A Wedding, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization granting weddings and vow renewals for couples facing serious illness or a life-altering circumstance.
There are many people who believe in God that don't got to church regularly or belong to a congregation. But, sometimes, you need someone that helps to connect you to God. I'm happy and honored to do that. I've had couples come to my home for a simple ceremony before their large wedding simply because they wanted to be together and pray together as they committed themselves in marriage. I also perform large and small christian and multi-faith wedding ceremonies. I've performed serveral Jewish-Christian ceremonies. I believe that God is love and love is the heart of marriage. I enjoy witnessing and experiencing the many ways love can come together.
Are you looking or a pastor to perform your wedding ceremony? I'd love to discuss it with you. Please contact me:
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Thank you for finding me and my website! You live in the Indy area and are looking for someone to marry you. You might have gone downtown to the county clerk to pick up your marriage license thinking you could just elope or have a civil ceremony with a judge or Justice of the Peace while you are there. When you found out they not longer marry couples at the courthouse the ladies at the desk probably advised you to google "Wedding Officiant Indianapolis." And you found me! Or maybe you are planning something a little, or a lot bigger. I am a wedding officiant serving not just Indianapolis but all of Indiana.
I am an ordained minister, able to legally marry you any way you would like to be married. I offer a very cost conscious and downright CHEAP alternative to couples who are just looking to make their marriage legal. I've been performing the $50 Quickie in my home in Fishers for over the past 3 years. I've recently lowered the price to $40 for the Simple Ceremony. To make it affordable for everyone to get married for whatever reason.
Maybe you are planning a big wedding and are looking to simply get married at your reception instead of a church. Perhaps you don't belong to a church or maybe you are even an atheist. No worries. I'm an ordained minister in order to be able to legally marry you. I generally perform non-religious ceremonies for anyone including secular humanist weddings, plain, civil ceremonies, or love based, romantic ceremonies. I rejoice and celebrate love in any form.
If you are looking for a wedding officiant in Indianapolis to marry you any way you would like to be married please contact me today. I'd love to speak with you!