Thinking about eloping? Is a romantic elopement what you dream of? Do you want a simple, affordable, incredibly memorable wedding? Do want to enjoy everything about your wedding day? Do you want to be in the moment when you exchange vows? Do you want to ride off into the sunset knowing you can afford to buy a house instead of paying for a huge wedding? Have you started planning your wedding and are completely overwhelmed and looking for a way out? Do you want an affordable wedding? Don't give up on your marriage, give up on your wedding! Elope in Indiana Today!
A wedding is how your marriage begins. It's a wonderful day and a moment in time. Your marriage is the whole point of your wedding. There are so many ways you can get married and countless types of weddings.
In many cultures, the legal aspect of marriage is the most important part, you are making a business deal and signing the papers seals the deal. In American culture, you seal this marriage with a kiss. In some religious wedding ceremonies, the bride and groom don't even talk, they are prayed over. Many cultures of the world don't like PDA, at all. The kiss, is not legally required.
I perform simple, legal weddings every day. Couples justs wants to sign that paper, get it over with, and move on with their day. At the end, I ask, "Groom, do you take Bride to be your wife?" and then, "Bride, do you take Groom to be your husband?" "I now pronounce you husband and wife!" And then, without thinking, they kiss..... Sigh... It was 30 seconds of unexpected bliss as they sit at a table in a cafe....
Over the years, there have been memorable moments that have changed the course of my business. Those moment and situations have given birth to new idea for services to offer. This memory was several years ago. I had emailed with the couples several times, we met and talked about what they wanted. They knew what they wanted but they were having a hard time reconciling what they wanted and what they thought they needed to do.
This was a great couple. They were "together." They were already married in every way but the wedding. They had saved enough money to either buy a house or have a wedding. When you look at it in that context, it hits home. Throw one big party or buy a house and make a home? Getting married is signing a legal contract. You are essentially now a business entity. That is not romantic at all. A wedding is romantic! I'm in love I want romance!!
Weddings are a great opportunity for celebration. A wedding is a milestone in the eyes of a parent, their child has grown up and is starting a family of their own. They are proud of the adults they have become and they want to celebrate them with family and friends. Close families look forward to wedding celebrations to enjoy each other and celebrate their family. Some couples look forward to throwing an amazing party for their family and friends where they are the center of attention. It's like they want to end their lives as single people with one big bang before they move on to the stability of marriage and starting a family. Their wedding is a rite of passage.
Weddings are a big business. When I talk to couples I always say, if you don't have a whole bunch of money set aside to pay for your wedding don't even start down that path. If your dress is going to cost you the same as your mortgage payment, you need to consider, what's more important? If your catering bill can pay your mortgage for a year or pay off your student loans, you have to seriously consider what you are doing. If you don't even have the house yet, do you really want the house or the wedding?
Some couples want the wedding no matter what. They set the goal, they make the budget, they go to work and they make it happen. It was always their dream to have a wedding and having the wedding is important to them. They want to get dressed up and walk down the aisle. They want the first dance and to feed each other cake. It has meaning to them. Some parents insist on a wedding happening. They've planned and saved for it since their child was born and they are paying for it. Their children have also always known they are going to grow up, get married and have a big wedding where they are the center of attention for a day.
And now, back to your regularly scheduled program of life. This sweet, young, responsible, couple was struggling with their decision. Their parents weren't paying for their wedding. Their parents love them very much and they love their parents very much. That still doesn't mean the money for a wedding is going to magically appear. They were doing the responsible thing, buying a home. The had decided to elope. It was going to
be the two of them with a best man, maid of honor, a photographer and a wedding officiant. We were now trying to decide on a place.
I came up with an idea and we went with it. I said, why don't we marry you on Monument Circle. Tell everyone what time and where you are getting married. If they want to come, they can come. They loved the idea! The day of the the wedding I parked my car and walked over to Monument Circle. I always look around and try to get a feel for the crowd and what's going on. I can usually spot a family there for a wedding. This day, there were people with wheelchairs and strollers. There were older people with camp chairs resting. By the time the bride and groom showed up, there must of have been 50-75 people who had showed up to watch them get married! They genuinely wanted to be there. We married them, they took pictures and then they all made plans as to what to do next. Going out for a drink or to get something to eat. Very informal and very perfect.
Now, when couples are struggling with the same choice, I tell them the same thing. Elope! You can elope downtown, or you can elope in your backyard or in a park. I limit my downtown elopements to 20 people, as to not to disturb the peace, however, there are so many great parks and other areas in Indy where you can have a small affordable wedding with larger groups of people. This past summer, I went to the gazebo at Ft. Ben to marry a couple. They paid to rent the gazebo and to rent chairs. A friend brought their sound system. It was a lovely Sunday evening. She had the dress, he had the tux, they had the photographer. They were married in the perfect little ceremony among family and friends. I asked what they were going to do afterwards? The answer was, I don't know, go home, I think. Their family and friends gathered around with them to celebrate their marriage and to pray with them. They didn't need to eat anything. I think they already knew that was a waste of time and money and they all had better things to do, like, love each other.