I performed a short and sweet wedding ceremony for a lovely couple this afternoon. They were remarrying each other. The ceremony was held in Garfield Park Conservatory and it was quite meaningful with just very close family in attendance. When we were done, I was taking pictures of all of them together and the groom said "Do you every pronounce anyone health insured?!?" The statement caught me off guard, made me laugh, and get very serious all at the same time.
I marry people far too often for health insurance. It's not that they don't love each other. Usually, they've been together for years, happily, not legally married. Other times, I've married couples because they just found out one of them is seriously ill and uninsured. Marriage may have not quite have been in the plans, but it was today, because it was a matter of life and death and avoiding bankruptcy. I received a call from a couple last year that was looking to be remarried. One of them had been seriously ill and they had accumulated insurmountable debt. They dealt with debt by divorcing, having one of them file for bankruptcy and then remarrying. I'm not sure how they did that but I was shocked by it. I was fascinated by the legal hoops they went through in order to do it, yet shocked they had to. I'm sure a lot of research went into that decision.
I spent several hours in City Market on Valentines Day marrying couples. They were secret weddings. One was for health insurance, another was tying up loose ends before the groom deploys to destinations unknown. In between those two weddings was the lunch rush. I was joined at my table by a gentlemen and shortly after, his 4 office mates. He actually came right out and said "don't you think it's wrong that people have to get married in order to get insurance, or affordable insurance?" Yes. Yes I do.
Adventures of a wedding officiant! Stories about my experiences as a wedding officiant in Indy.