When I sat down with Alex and her mom to talk wedding ceremony we had a great conversation. I wanted to get to know Alex a little better and hear all about her relationship with Ethan. Their dog is a HUGE part of their lives - so we had to include him! They were considering having him at the ceremony but ultimately decided against it but he was definitely there in spirit! The other thing they love is Harry Potter!!! My husband and I feel the same way! LOVE LOVE LOVE Harry! When I told Alex they could have Harry Potter in the wedding we got so excited! I loved writing and performing this ceremony.
Alex and Ethan were married a the Indiana State Fairgrounds Under the covered bridge with their reception in Normandy Barn.
Victoria will take her place at the front first and announce and unplugged ceremony
Ladies and gentlemen, thank you for joining us today. Please silence your phones and refrain from taking pictures during the ceremony. Thank you.
The Presentation of the Bride
Everyone, Please stand for the Bride.
Who gives this woman to be married?
Thank you very much.
Please be seated.
Welcome! We are gathered here today to celebrate and to witness the joining of Alex and Ethan in marriage. As they promise to love, trust in that love, honor one another as individuals, and anticipate with joy spending the rest of their lives together. They, are surrounded by you - their friends and family. Thank you for gathering here to witness their marriage and to share in the joy of this special occasion.
Moment of Silence
We’d like to take a moment to remember those who are not with us here today. Either those who couldn’t be here today or who are no longer with us. We Know that they are here with us in spirit
Words about Love and Marriage
Alex and Ethan, Today, as you two are joined in marriage, there is a vast and unknown future stretching out before you. The possibilities and potentials of your married life are great. We join with you in hoping you make real your dreams! That you are reborn in each other as you share your loves and dreams, wants and desires and together are enriched by them. Through your commitment to each other, may you grow and nurture a love that makes both of you better people, a love that continues to give you great joy, and also a passion for living that provides you with energy and patience to face the responsibilities of life. There was a time when your lives were two separate paths. Gradually, they were joined as you grew closer together. Today, you proclaim to the world your choice to stay on the same path together. May you be enriched by the unique view of the other!
I know there was a lot of discussion as to whether or not Slink, the wonder dog was going to be here today. He’s such an important part of your lives. That’s why, I think this reading is perfect for today. We all learn from each other and we can learn a lot from dogs!
How Falling in Love is like Owning a Dog
by Taylor Mali
First of all, it’s a big responsibility, owning a dog or falling in love...
So think long and hard before deciding on love.
On the other hand, love gives you a sense of security:
when you’re walking down the street late at night
and you have a leash on love
ain’t nobody going to mess with you.
Because crooks and muggers think love is unpredictable.
Who knows what love could do in its own defense?
On cold winter nights, love is warm.
It lies between you and lives and breathes
and makes funny noises.
Love wakes you up all hours of the night with its needs.
It needs to be fed so it will grow and stay healthy.
Love doesn’t like being left alone for long.
But come home and love is always happy to see you.
It may break a few things accidentally in its passion for life,
but you can never be mad at love for long.
Is love good all the time? No! No!
Love can be bad. Bad, love, bad! Very bad love.
Love makes messes.
Love leaves you little surprises here and there.
Love needs lots of cleaning up after.
Sometimes you just want to get love fixed.
Sometimes you want to roll up a piece of newspaper
and swat love on the nose,
not so much to cause pain,
just to let love know Don’t you ever do that again!
Sometimes love just wants to go out for a nice long walk.
Because love loves exercise. It will run you around the block
and leave you panting, breathless. Pull you in different directions
at once, or wind itself around and around you
until you’re all wound up and you cannot move.
But love makes you meet people wherever you go.
People who have nothing in common but love
stop and talk to each other on the street.
Throw things away and love will bring them back,
again, and again, and again.
But most of all, love needs love, lots of it.
And in return, love loves you and never stops.
A few words about Love and Marriage in the Spirit of Harry Potter
Now, I don’t think that two big Harry Potter fans, like Ethan and Alex, could think about getting married without making the Unbreakable Vow and declaring Until Avada Kedavera do us part! To you muggles that are unfamiliar with the magical lingo, The Unbreakable Vow is when you make a vow in such seriousness, if you should break the vow, you will die. On the other hand, Avada Kedavera is the killing curse! Oh, to think that nothing could ever separate you other than a killing curse in a duel!
There are a few things we can learn about love and marriage from the magical world of Harry Potter…
Albus Dumbledore said “We can’t choose our fate but we can choose others,” He also goes on to say that we should “be careful in knowing that.” We know that you have made a very careful choice in deciding to get married today, and you have chosen each other, knowing that whatever fate might bring, the two of you, together, know that you can face it.
There may be things you face over the lifetime of your marriage that seem insurmountable, like a 12 foot mountain troll. But remember this Potter quote, “There are some things you can’t share without ending up liking each other, and knocking out a 12 foot mountain troll is one of them.” Remember when you face the mountain trolls of life, you will find out things about yourselves and each other, that you would have never seen, had you not been put to the test. Good things like strength and wit, and of course, cleverness, bravery and friendship.
Perhaps the best vows to make today is what James Potter declared when he said “Until the very end.” The interesting thing about that quote is that James Potter said it from beyond the grave. So, with that, may your vow today be beyond the typical “until death do us part.” May your love always connect you on a level beyond our physical understanding knowing that is where the actual magic is.
Dumbledore declared, “Let us step into the night and pursue that flighty temptress, adventure.” We hope your marriage is full of adventure!
Along your adventure, Listen to Ron who said, “When in doubt, go to the library.”
When things get challenging, remember dumbledore also said, “Time will not slow down when something unpleasant lies ahead.” But I hope you have a helpful Marauders Map to show you what’s along the way when you need it. And may you also know when it’s exactly the right time to say “Mischief Managed!”
Remember that your marriage will take on a life of it’s own and your relationship will grow. “It matters not what someone is born, it’s what they grow to be” Your marriage starts today, it’s born today, you can control what it grows to be by your choices and actions. “What’s comin’ will come and we’ll meet it when it does.”
Know that, “Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times if one only remembers to turn the light on.”
Slughorn said, “It is impossible to manufacture or imitate love.” Love, simply is, you can choose to let it flow through you or not. Love is the power behind the magic.
In the end, remember, “You are protected, in short, by your ability to love.” And when someone asks, “Even after all this time?” May your answer be, “Always.”
Do you Ethan, take Alex, to be your wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward through all your adventures in life together?
Do you Alex take Ethan, to be your husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward through all of your adventures in life together.
Alex and Ethan would now like to share their own vows here
The Meaning of the Rings
The rings please…
The rings are the universal symbols of marriage. They mean many things. From now on you will wear these rings and they will remind you... They will remind you of the endless circle that they are. Like love, there is no beginning and no end. They will remind you daily that you are married. Sometimes they will remind you of the commitment that you have made - for better or worse. But, may they always remind you that there is one other person in the world that has pledged to love you forever, through thick and through thin and with all that they have.
Alex, I give you this ring with all that I am and all that I ever will be. Wear it and know that I love you. With this ring, I marry you.
Ethan, I give you this ring with all that I am and all that I ever will be. Wear it and know that I love you. With this ring, I marry you.
The Hand Ceremony
And now as you are holding hands take a moment, so that you may see the gift that you are to each other.
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow and forever.
These are the hands that will work alongside yours as together you build your future.
These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes, tears of sorrow and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will give you support and encouragement to chase down your dreams.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.
These are the hands that will lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into eyes that are filled with overwhelming love for you.
And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.
Alex and Ethan, May all your days be blessed with love and friendship. May each day and night of your lives be a new beginning.
May your home be filled with laughter and the warm embrace of a summer’s day.
May you find peacefulness and beauty, challenge, and satisfaction, humor and insight, healing and renewal, love and wisdom, as in a quiet heart.
May you always feel that what you have is enough.
It is my great pleasure to acknowledge your union as “Husband and Wife.”
You may now seal your marriage with a kiss!!!
Ladies and Gentlemen, It is my pleasure to introduce to you Mr. and Mrs. Ethan and Alex ...!
As a wedding officiant, I want every couple to the the wedding ceremony they want. Since I started giving couples tools to create their own ceremonies I haven't performed the same ceremony twice. Here are some of the ceremonies.
Rachel and Dominic's Traditional Wedding Ceremony Script with a Prayer from Grandpa. Valle Vista, Greenwood, IN
DaWonda and Dorothy's Same-Sex Christian Wedding Ceremony Script. Featuring a Unity Candle of Remembrance, Family Sand Ceremony and Jumping the Broom!
LaKieta And Josh's Wedding Ceremony Script. Wood Burning Unity Ceremony. Falls Park Gazebo, Pendleton, IN.