Alex and Katherine's Jewish/Christian Wedding Ceremony Script. The Chapel at Ritz Charles, Carmel, IN.
Alex and Katharine's wedding ceremony was in The Chapel at Ritz Charles in Carmel, IN. We created a ceremony that brought together both their families including their Christian and Jewish faiths. Mazel Tov!
The Presentation of The Bride
Officiant: Everyone please stand for the bride!
Katharine is escorted down the aisle. Alex meets Katharine and takes her hand.
Officiant asks: Who gives this woman to be married?
Dad: Her mother and I do. Officiant continues: Thank you. Please be seated.
Welcome! Thank you everyone for gathered with us here today to celebrate and to witness the joining of Katharine and Alexander in marriage. As they promise to love, trust in that love, honor one another as individuals, and anticipate with joy spending the rest of their lives together. They are surrounded by you - their friends and family. Thank you for gathering here to witness their marriage and to share in the joy of this special occasion.
Moment of Silence
At this time, we would like to take a moment to remember those who are not here with us here today. Either they were unable to join or or they are no longer with us. We know that they are here with us in spirit.
(Moment of Silence)
Words about Love and Marriage
Today, as you two are joined in marriage, there is a vast and unknown future stretching out before you. The possibilities and potentials of your married life are great. We join with you in hoping you make real your dreams! That you are reborn in each other as you share your loves and dreams, wants and desires and together are enriched by them.
Through your commitment to each other, may you grow and nurture a love that makes both of you better people, a love that continues to give you great joy, and also a passion for living that provides you with energy and patience to face the responsibilities of life.
There was a time when your lives were two separate paths. Gradually, they were joined as you grew closer together. Today, you proclaim to the world your choice to stay on the same path together. May you be enriched by the unique view of the other!
The first reading is from the first book of Corinthians Chapter 13 Verses 1-13.
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If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
The second reading is from the book of Ecclesiastes Chapter 4 verses 1 - 12.
Again I saw something meaningless under the sun: a person all alone, no parent, no sibling, no child; there is no end to his effort, her eyes were not content with her wealth. For whom, then, do I work so hard, and why am I depriving myself of pleasure? This, too, is vanity and the chasing of the wind. Better two than one alone, since thus their work is really profitable. If one should fall, the other helps her up. If one should rise, he can pull her up behind him. Woe those who stand alone with no one to help them up when they fall down. When two sleep together they find warmth, but how can one keep warm alone? Where one alone would be overcome, two will put up resistance, and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
Katharine and Alexander, You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way. All those conversations that were held riding in a car or over a meal or during long walks - all those sentences that began with "When we're married" and continued with "I will and you will and we will" - those late night talks that included "someday and somehow and maybe"- and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding. The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, "You know all those things we've promised and hoped and dreamed- well, I meant it all, every word." Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another- acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, and even teacher, for you have learned much from one another in these last few years. Now you shall say a few words that take you across a threshold of life, and things will never quite be the same between you. For after these vows, you shall say to the world, this- is my husband, this- is my wife.
Please repeat after me:
I Alexander, choose you Katharine, to be my wife. I promise to be your best friend, faithful partner, and one true love. I promise to encourage you, and inspire you, and to love you truly, through good times and bad. I promise to be by your side, forever, to laugh with you, to lift you up when are down, and to love you unconditionally, through all our adventures in life together.
I Katharine, choose you Alexander, to be my husband. I promise to be your best friend, faithful partner, and one true love. I promise to encourage you, and inspire you, and to love you truly, through good times and bad. I promise to be by your side, forever, to laugh with you, to lift you up when are down, and to love you unconditionally, through all our adventures in life together.
Meaning of the Wedding Rings
The rings are the universal symbols of marriage. They mean many things. From now on you will wear these rings and they will remind you... They will remind you of the endless circle that they are. Like love, there is no beginning and no end. They will remind you daily that you are married. Sometimes they will remind you of the commitment that you have made - for better or worse. But, may they always remind you that there is one other person in the world that has pledged to love you forever, through thick and through thin and with all that they have.
Wedding Ring Exchange
Please repeat after me:
Katharine, I give you this ring with all that I am and all that I ever will be. Wear it and know that I love you.
As you place it on her finger,
With this ring, I thee wed.
Alexander, I give you this ring with all that I am and all that I ever will be. Wear it and know that I love you.
As you place it on his finger,
With this ring, I thee wed.
The Kiddush Cup
As many of you know. Alexander and Katharine come from different religious backgrounds. The readings today were from the New Testament, which is Katharine’s background. Now, We are going to add some Jewish wedding traditions from Alexander’s background. The first is the Seven Blessings for a Jewish Wedding. These seven blessings connect the bride and groom to each other, uniting their souls as one. The Seven Blessings promote the hope and destiny of the couple’s happiness, their delight in spirituality and each other, and that the Temple will be restored in Jerusalem. After I recite the blessings they will drink wine from the Kiddush Cup. The wine symbolizes the beginning of life, which in this case, refers to pure grape juice. But the grape juice continues to grow through the stages of fermentation, and emerges as a pure and delightful divine blessing: a sweet, sweet wine. And we hope for them, a sweet, sweet life together.
Give Alex the cup
Seven Blessing for a Jewish Wedding.
May you be blessed with love. May your admiration, appreciation and understanding of each other foster a love that is passionate, tranquil and real. May this love between you be strong and enduring, and bring peace into your lives.
May you be blessed with a loving home filled with warmth, humor and compassion. May you create a family together that honors traditions old and new. May you teach your children to have equal respect for themselves and others, and instill in them the value of learning and tikkun olam, making the world a better place.
May you be best friends and work together to build a relationship of substance and quality. May your sense of humor and playful spirit continue to enliven your relationship. May you respect each other’s individual personality and perspective, and give each other room to grow in fulfilling your dreams.
May you be blessed with wisdom. May you continually learn from one another and from the world. Together, may you grow, deepening your knowledge and understanding of each other and of your journey through life.
May you be blessed with health. May life bring you wholeness of mind, body and spirit. May you keep each other well-balanced and grounded, and live long that you may share many happy years together.
May your life be blessed with the art and beauty of this world. May your creative aspirations and experiences find expression, inspire you, and bring you joy and fulfillment. May you find happiness together in adventures big and small, and something to celebrate each day of your lives.
May you be blessed with community. May you always be blessed with the awareness that you are an essential part of a circle of family and friends. May there always be within this group love, trust, support and laughter, and may there be many future occasions for rejoicing in their company.
Breaking of the Glass
It is a Jewish custom to end the wedding ceremony with the breaking of a glass. One interpretation of the custom is that even in the happiest of times, we must remember that there is still much suffering in the world. We are reminded that working through the challenges and celebrating the successes of life is best done together. And, of course, the breaking of the glass marks the beginning of the celebration. Will figure out during rehearsal who will take the glass from the counter and place it on the floor.
Please, after the breaking of the glass, I invite everyone to shout the Hebrew words “Mazel Tov,” meaning “Congratulations.”
I now pronounce you husband and wife!
(Breaking of the glass)
You may kiss the bride!
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