Diversity Statement Marry Me In Indy celebrates the diversity of the human race. We are open to marrying anyone. Every race, creed, skin color, nationality, sexual orientation, or neuro-diversity. All are welcome here! Our goal is to meet each couple where they are and help them have a positive wedding experience. We approach every wedding with an open mind - We don’t know anything about you until you tell us, and that’s only if you choose to tell us. Wedding ceremony scripts have been written for years for brides and grooms. Some couples are choosing to forego traditional gender roles altogether and are using the terms spouse or partner. If you have made the choice to use non-traditional pronouns, please let me know, and I will be happy to honor your preferences. Any wedding ceremony script can be changed to reflect your personal preferences. The only second language we speak is German, but we do our best to communicate with everyone.
We are passionate about being open to all people. Everyone should be able to get married in a way that is most comfortable for them. We strive to provide a safe space for all couples to express their love for each other.
As of writing this, I've been marrying couples in Indy for over 14 years. A lot has happened over that time. From the first ladies who called and said they just wanted to be married in a commitment ceremony that wasn't legal, to the bride that called saying she and her partner could go to the courthouse and get married as husband and wife but, her partner really wanted to wear a dress too, to the very first same-sex couple I married in my back yard, to great big formal same-gender weddings of today.
Every day, we get to be a part of the beginning - or the continuation - of something amazing! We get to witness love in action as couples from every walk of life allow us to be the person who officiates their wedding. Over the last decade, it has been our absolute privilege to be a part of thousands of wedding ceremonies.
I (Victoria) wanted to become a wedding officiant to make it easy for every couple to be legally married. She wanted every couple to have the opportunity to enjoy their wedding day - be it a quick civil ceremony or a full, formal wedding - without judgement.
The act of getting married and taking the next step in your relationship is something that makes you more. You are more together then each of you could ever be alone. The last thing you should ever have to do is apologize about who you love and in what way you choose to marry them.
Thank you to all of the couples that have chosen me to marry them over the years. We are humbled every day by the lives and stories that are shared with us.
To all those who have trusted me with the intimacies of them - either a secret wedding in our office, or the stories of their life and love to be incorporated into their ceremony - Thank You!
To every couple that walks off the street into my office - Thank You!
To every couple that trusts me, a complete stranger, to meet them in a seemingly random location to marry them - Thank You!
To every couple that has trusted me to enter their home to marry them - Thank You!
To every parent who has trusted me to marry their child - Thank You!
To the black man that called seven pastors who said no, before calling to ask me, “Will you marry a black man to a white woman?” I’m so sorry you had to endure that 7 times, but thank you for calling one more person. I'm so happy that person was me and I got to be the person to marry you! I will never forget your wedding vows and the African drummers!
To the first scared couple who called and said “We could get married as a man and woman at the courthouse, but he doesn’t identify as a man and he wants to wear a dress. Can you help us?” Thank You! Thank you for trusting me to marry you. Thank you for accepting me at face value and helping me to understand you and your life and relationship. It was an honor and a privilege. You have made me a better person. Thank You!
When I started my career as a wedding officiant, marriage equality was a dream, now it’s a part of life and my everyday business.
To every gay couple that has called to make sure I am legit, thank you for explaining why words on a website are not enough to trust and that “LGBT Welcome” is not always true. I’m so happy I was the one ready, willing, and able to marry you. Thank you for allowing me to put ideas and truths I didn’t truly understand into action, and bring a new era to life.
Photo by Jasmine Norris Photography.
Photo taken by Summerly Photography at Lily Lake, Eagle Creek State Park.