Your professional wedding officiant coach and wedding ceremony script consultant. I want to empower you to do it yourself!
Professional Wedding Officiant Victoria Meyer. Owner of Marry Me In Indy! LLC
Wedding Officiant Consulting.
Are you a new wedding officiant with questions?
I'd love to help answer your questions about being a wedding officiant. You may not even know what questions to ask. I often read questions online from new wedding officiants that are blanket statements like..."Where do I begin?" Or, "Do you have any advice or tips and tricks?" There is no way to answer those questions quickly or easily.
This package is to help you focus on what will make you the best wedding officiant you can be. There is only one you and I want to help you figure out how you can build a business that is going to help you shine. You may just need one great conversation, or we can schedule more than one so you have time to digest the information, do more research on your own, and start implementing your ideas.
I charge for my time - this is the same price as a 30 minute civil ceremony in my office. A very fair price!
Considering becoming a professional officiant and have questions?
Need a pep-talk before your first ceremony? Or a ceremony situation that's new to you?
Need help finding your own vibe and how to sell it?
Questions about building a website?
What are the pros and cons of advertising?
What questions do you have?
I don't want to just give you pre-written answers, I want to help you find what works best for you. Don't settle for the cookie-cutter approach. You can definitely learn from a list of do's and don'ts but you are unique and your business should be too!
I don't hire wedding officiants - I tried that, it didn't work for so many reasons. I encourage everyone to build their own business - big or small. Sell yourself! You have something valuable to offer!
I don't do in-person mentoring at actual weddings. I'm concentrating on the couple I'm marrying at their wedding and don't feel that it's OK to use their wedding as a training ground.
My time is valuable and I am not going to just give it to you for free. I am self-employed. Every couple I marry helps support my family. When someone calls and asks me if I mentor and offers nothing in return, I can help but wonder, "What makes you think I'm going to help you for free so I can create my own competition?" I'd rather you learn from me and others and make it your business your own. I believe that you have to take the initiative to start figuring it out on your own. This service is to help you with that process.
The cost of this package is $100. It includes:
I will send you an email with questions to think about ahead of time.
Feel free to send me an email with specific questions before your meeting so we can make the best use of our time.
Are you writing a wedding ceremony script and need help?
You might be a wedding officiant learning to write wedding ceremony scripts or you may be a couple wanting to create your own wedding ceremony.
I have LOTS of tools I offer for free but it can be really helpful to hire me to help you use them. Many of my ceremony script options can be used as writing prompts to help you make your ceremony your own. This process usually involves asking and answering questions as well. Where is the wedding? Who is getting married? Do they have any specific requests? Who is going to be there? What is your vibe? Sometimes a few questions can point us to some great ideas and everything just clicks!
The cost of this package is $150. It includes:
A pre-meeting email that will get you familiar with all the tools I offer for free on my website.
30-40 minute Zoom call.
A post-meeting email/phone call/or zoom meeting to go over the ceremony that you have created.
Are you getting ready to perform a wedding ceremony for a friend or a family member and want to talk about it? I think a lot of people choose to officiate a wedding because they want the experience. It's fun! It can also be very meaningful. I believe my biggest competition in the formal wedding market is a couples friend or family member - and I get it. It isn't even necessarily because it's cheaper than hiring a pro. If you want to have a truly intimate experience, having someone who knows you well officiate your ceremony is the perfect choice.
If you are the person the couple has chosen to officiate their wedding ceremony, I'm sure you want to do a great job and you might like a pep-talk to get you ready. We can sit down and talk about it. I can answer any questions you have and walk you through the process. I can also help you choose a ceremony and tweak it for the couple. You can also choose the Wedding Ceremony Script Consultation if you want help personalizing the ceremony.
The cost of this package is $100. In includes:
A pre-meeting emails with questions - I'll ask you questions and you can ask me questions. This will help us make the best use of our time.
A 30-40 minute Zoom Call
One follow-up email if you have additional questions.
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Over the past 13 years I've built a full-time business as a wedding officiant in Indiana. I've married over 7,000 couples! I've been doing this so long that I'm almost completely self-taught. When I started, there weren't many resources to work with. I got ceremony ideas from poorly written websites - because that's just the way websites were back then!
A woman called me several years ago and asked, "How did you learn how to be a wedding officiant?" My answer? I googled it! She didn't know what to do with that answer. But it was all I really had for her. I researched and used the information I found to make it up as I went along...
One of the things I'm most passionate about is how thorough my website is. I share a great deal of information online. Anyone who can read, can have just about any question answered about getting married in Indiana. I even have many complete wedding ceremony scripts to choose from.
One of the main reasons my websites are so thorough is because I want my customers to be able to find the answers on their own. I created a website that, if you were looking for answers at 2 am, you'd find them. I created a website that I would want to find. I thought of questions and answered them. If someone asks me a question - I can send them a link to my website - or to a specific page on my website.
I really enjoyed gathering all the information and presenting it. it's fun to see what other wedding officiants are doing. What services are the offering, what are they charging? I know I answer a lot of questions on my website because most of the wedding officiants in town copy right from my website! They never asked. They just did their research and put their own spin on it. That's really all anyone does. When I was gathering wedding ceremony script information, just about every website has the same exact examples. The same readings, the same ring exchanges, the same blessings.
Every year I get emails from people all over the country asking questions about being a wedding officiant. Questions I think I answer on my website - If I'm doing this, you can too, I've explained everything in detail. Or, answers you can easily answer for yourself if you did a little research.
In the beginning, I was flattered and I'd answer those emails. They found my website and believed I had the answers they were looking for. Then, I realized I'd spend an hour answering questions for people who barely said "thank you." I ignored an email one day, already knowing the response would be time consuming. A few days later, the person emailed again... I had a little time so I decided to give him a thorough response. He emailed back with gratitude not really realizing what he had actually asked for. He offered to pay me because my advice was paying off quickly and easily. I thanked him, happy he implemented my suggestions and just asked him to pay it forward.
Now, I've decided I have enough experience that can be extremely helpful to those who are looking for answers in earnest. Not just the typical questions of, "Do you have any tips or advice?"
There are courses out there you can take to teach you how to be a wedding officiant, and courses about writing wedding ceremony scripts. I thought about doing that in the past but I felt that those people really had that covered.
What I have to offer is my experiences. Literally. I can learn from your experiences and you can learn from mine. Every wedding couple and every wedding ceremony is different. Even if you perfect one traditional wedding ceremony and perform it at every ceremony you officiate for the rest of your life, you will perform it differently every single time. The energy and connection you have with the couple is different every time. The energy of the guests and the surroundings are always changing and you learn to work with that.
Officiating a wedding ceremony is a very personal experience. You connect with each couple in some way. I want every couple to find the perfect wedding officiant for them. I do my very best to be flexible and knowledgeable enough to be able to fill any need. From a simple, legal ceremony, to a fully personalized ceremony script. Performing a non-religious ceremony for two closet atheists in front of their born-again Christian families or joining the family fun and making everyone laugh and feel welcome. Sometimes I build a relationship with the couple, other times, I just show up, perform the script exactly as it's written and they will never remember my name. I may meet with a couple who is interviewing every officiant in town, or a couple will book my services online with one email and that's it.
I don't think that learning to be a professional wedding officiant comes from a step by step guide, it comes from conversations. These are conversations I would love to have!
Diversity Statement We are open to marrying any couple. It is our goal to meet each couple where they are and help them to have a positive wedding experience. In order to meet you where you are, we approach every wedding with an open mind - we don’t know anything about you until you tell us and that’s only if you choose to tell us. Wedding ceremony scripts have been written for years for brides and grooms. Now, bride and bride or groom and groom are very common. Some couples are choosing to forego traditional gender roles altogether and are using the terms spouse or partner. If you have made the choice to use non-traditional pronouns, please let us know, and we will be happy to honor your preferences. Any wedding ceremony script can be changed to reflect those personal preferences.