Congratulations on your engagement and upcoming wedding!
You have a lot going on right now!
I hope you are excited and having fun planning your wedding.
My name is Victoria Meyer. I'm an experienced, professional wedding officiant. I have 14 years of experience performing formal weddings ceremonies.
I'd love to help you plan the perfect wedding ceremony for you.
What is the Perfect Wedding Ceremony For You?
Photo by Leah Rife Photography.
There are as many ceremony options as there are couples. It's really your vibe as a couple and the vibe of all the people around you that personalizes your ceremony.
We want to find the right words to express who you all are.
You may want a traditional ceremony. Religious, non-religious, or a mix or both. Maybe you want a Handfasting? You may be emotional and give out tissues because you know they'll be needed by everyone.
You may be light-hearted, enjoying family and friends. It's a fun day! You may have greeted your guests with drinks and the party has already begun!
Come as you are.
Photo taken on my phone during a "photo moment."
A wedding ceremony can be stressful. If you have social anxiety it can be more than stressful!
I want you to be comfortable on your wedding day. I want the two of you to enjoy your wedding ceremony.
My goal is to make sure the two of you are comfortable and in-the-moment on your wedding day and I want your guests to feel engaged.
It's not 150 people staring at you, it's a group of people joining you and supporting you as you marry each other.
I want everyone walking away from your wedding ceremony thinking... That was GREAT! Let's celebrate!!
Our family is on the spectrum, so I want you to know that I get it! You may do funny things when you are nervous. You may have guests at your wedding who do funny things when they are nervous. That's perfectly OK! The funny things you may do are perfectly normal and OK!
It goes without saying that LGBTQIA are welcome!
Finding the perfect ceremony for you.
Photo by Victoria Sprung Photography.
Weddings can get complicated. Especially formal weddings. There are many different points of view, many expectations, and many opinions.
Many people think of a formal wedding taking place in a Church or house of worship with a set religious ceremony. And that is where many formal weddings do take place. But, more formal weddings take place in formal and informal venues everywhere.
I specialize in helping you find the perfect wedding ceremony for you - It is literally the whole reason I became a wedding officiant!
The perfect wedding ceremony for you may be exactly what YOU want. Or, it may be a happy medium between what you want and what your family may expect. It's perfectly OK to say what you want is for everyone to be happy.
I perform mostly non-religious, beautiful wedding ceremonies. I truly believe that if you have a beautiful, non-religious wedding ceremony, most people won't realize you never mentioned God at all.
I have a very popular "Christian-Lite" ceremony that I wrote to, hopefully, find the right balance that won't offend anyone. We regularly add the Breaking of the Glass and the 7 Blessings for a Jewish Wedding to wedding ceremony scripts. I also perform many handfastings, or modified handfastings if you prefer a Pagan element.
And, if you are wondering... "I do," "I do," "We're done!" is very popular too! "Short, sweet and to the point" is perfectly OK!
Your Wedding Ceremony Script.
What do we say during your wedding ceremony?
We can say just about anything you want during your ceremony. You are also welcome to remove anything you DON'T want to say during your ceremony.
I still giggle a little bit inside when someone says, "I don't want the word 'obey' in my wedding vows." No worries! That would have to be a very special request! I understand the questions though. There are still a lot of assumptions when it comes to weddings.
Wedding Ceremony Scripts Are My Thing.
A script is what we say during your wedding ceremony.
THIS is what sets me apart. If we all have to go head first and way too deep into something, wedding ceremony script options are my "thing."
Some couples really like to know what is going to be said before they walk down the aisle. They want to make sure some crazy person doesn't go off an inappropriate tangent during their ceremony!
Many couples want to choose what is said during their ceremony. You have a choice!! I have MANY pre-written ceremonies to choose and resources to make the ceremony your own!
The ULTIMATE Ceremony Script Guide.
I've created an extensive Wedding Ceremony Script Guide.
The link below is to the guide, which is a page with more links.
There are 10 Formal Wedding Ceremony Scripts. 8 Shorter Elopement/Small Wedding Scripts. 6 Christian Wedding Ceremony Scripts I LOVE! A guide to writing your own vows.
Explanations to every part of a wedding ceremony with examples.
I've put an incredible amount of time and effort into collecting wedding ceremonies over the years. I update my options several times a year. I used to personalize every wedding ceremony. After a few years of offering several options to couples as part of the process of personalizing their ceremony, many couples were choosing the same ceremony over and over again. That is when I decided to save myself the time and effort and make it easier and less expensive for the couples too!
If you would like to have a more personalized ceremony, I charge extra. It takes at least one full work-day to write the first draft of a personalized wedding ceremony.
When I personalize a wedding ceremony I need to ask you questions, and you need to answer questions. You need to answer the questions within a reasonable amount of time in order for me to have time to write a ceremony. I write a first draft, then it goes to you to comment and make personal edits, then I make the final edits and practice it. Not every couple wants to do that. No judgement from me! I LOVE all of my ceremonies! I hope you are able to find one you love too!
If you want your wedding ceremony to tell your love story, include more details about you, or create a new unity ceremony, I'm all in!! Let's get to know each other a little better, let's make it yours!!
Some couples want to write their own ceremony from start to finish. You are welcome to do that! I charge $350 to perform ceremonies you write because it takes extra time for you to familiarize myself with your script and practice it. I had one couple use Chat GPT to write a ceremony - I needed a LOT of time to practice it - it really sounded like it was written by a computer!
$150 Wedding Rehearsal
Rehearsals are not included. Not every wedding has a rehearsal.
If you are having a rehearsal, it is always a good idea to have your officiant at your rehearsal. But, it's not always necessary.
You may have a wedding planner or Day of Event coordinator who is going to run your rehearsal. They will organize everything and tell everyone where to stand and where to go, then they will hand it over to me to go over the wedding ceremony specific information. I will work with them in any way needed.
If you do not have a planner or coordinator I can tell everyone where to stand and where to go and make sure everyone feels comfortable.
I always arrive at least 45 minutes the day of your wedding. If I was not at your rehearsal, I will have time to get the details needed. If you have questions about this, please ask!
Maddie and Logan went for a personalized wedding ceremony script! It's featured in this video by Passenger Productions.
What can we expect when booking with you?
In order to book your wedding ceremony, you will need to know your wedding date and time.
If you are booking the ceremony only, payment in full is due at the time you book. If you are booking the ceremony and rehearsal, a $150 non-refundable down-payment is due when booking with the $250 or $350 balance due 30 days before your wedding.
If you cancel MORE than 30 days before your wedding, I will keep $150 and refund the difference. The non-refundable fee goes to reserve your date and time and to cover administrative time leading up to your wedding.
Please click on the link below for the full payment policy.
I want to be whatever you need me to be within reason. I generally leave the ball in your court until you are ready to talk about your wedding ceremony. Many couples want to get all their vendors hired and then deal with the details later. Some couples want meetings - let's meet!
Some couples pay me and we email a week before their wedding to confirm the details and that's it.
I've come to understand that your wedding ceremony might not be as big of a priority as other parts of your wedding. I don't want to bother you or take up time you'd rather spend on something else.
Some couples have a wedding email they check once a week. Some couples have a huge to do list and want to keep on top of every single detail. Some couples want me to go through their wedding planner. Please let me know what works for you.
MANY couples will book their ceremony online, let me know what ceremony they want when they book, and we email again the week of their wedding. That's fine!
You will need to obtain your own marriage license from your county clerk and bring it with you.
I have been marrying couples for 14 years. I've literally married THOUSANDS of couples in all types of ceremonies. I've changed my business and how I do things often over the years. I update this website once or twice a year based on those changes. What works? What doesn't work? How can I make it better? I don't even ask the same questions I did 10 years ago because some of them are no longer relevant. Things are always changing.
I've learned that there really is no right or wrong when it comes to a wedding ceremony. It's all about what works for you. I want to be able to help you to figure out what it is you want and make it happen for you in the very best way possible.
I've learned the most important part of every wedding is how everyone feels. I want you to feel good. I want to make sure the two of you are present - I know that's hard because of all the overwhelming nervous excitement! - but I want to make sure you are in the moment during your ceremony. You may be in YOUR own little moment - not even paying attention to me, but experiencing the moment together. Holding hands and mouthing words at each other or at least smiling! I want you to feel your feelings. If you want to laugh through your entire ceremony, I will find a very tasteful way to make that happen!
I want your guests to be engaged in your wedding. There actually is a point where everyone gets bored and loses interest. I want to avoid that!! When we are done, I want everyone to walk away thinking...that was great! Let's party!
I really want you to know that I know there is a time and a place for everything. Every ceremony is different. For all the light-hearted and fun ceremonies I perform, there are other couples that want a more serious ceremony. The family dynamic is completely different and there are many different expectations.
I love my job and all the different opportunities it brings me. The honor it is to recite the 7 Blessings for a Jewish Wedding among your family and friends always takes my breath away. Walking you through a ceremony you never dreamed of having without your father, or mother, or best friend there. Helping you quell your anxiety as you stand in front of 150 people is really, really important to me. Ignoring the stimm you are trying desperately to hide in your excitement!
While I'm being honest... There are some couples who hire me and could care less who I am! They just need a person to marry them and I come highly recommend. I do what I say I'm going to do. I show up on time, sign the marriage license, perform a ceremony and leave. They really just needed a professional to get the job done. That is perfectly OK with me! It's what I do!
I did not attend seminary. Although, my mother always thought I would! I'm an online ordained minister so that I can legally perform weddings. Almost all of the wedding ceremonies I perform are non-religious. My thought used to be, if you want a Christian wedding ceremony, you probably already attend a church and will have your own pastor marry you. If you don't go to church, why do you want Christian ceremony? Well, it turns out, not all pastors perform weddings and not all those with Christian beliefs attend a church! I am happy to perform a Christian ceremony, my only request is that we choose a time and a place to truly center ourselves and give the ceremony the respect it deserves.
(If you plan on drinking before your ceremony, that's fine, but if you may have had a little too much to drink, let's choose a ceremony better suited to that. I don't feel comfortable performing a christian ceremony with drunk people. We do plan fun ceremonies for drunk people!)
I tend to get requests from couples who are looking for a man to perform a Christian wedding ceremony for them. I (Victoria) am happy to perform a Christian ceremony. Peter, my husband who is also a wedding officiant, does not perform any Christian ceremonies at all.
$250 Formal Wedding Ceremony
I arrive at your location 30-45 minutes early. You have 60 minutes to sign your marriage license and get married. I perform one of my pre-written wedding ceremonies.
This is for locations within a 45 minute drive from zip code 46037. We may travel further for an additional fee.
$270 Formal Wedding Ceremony
This is the $250 option with the Marion County Marriage License Return Service.
If your marriage license was issued in Marion County, we will return the license to the clerk for you in-person and mail you 2 certified copies. Additional copies are $4 each.
$350 Personalized Wedding Ceremony
I arrive at your location 30-45 minutes early. You have 60 minutes to sign your marriage license and get married. I perform a personalized wedding ceremony script. You are welcome to write, and/or personalize your own ceremony or we can personalized your ceremony together.
This is for locations within a 45 minute drive from zip code 46037. We may travel further for an additional fee.
$370 Personalized Wedding Ceremony
This is the $350 option with the Marion County Marriage License Return Service.
$150 Wedding Ceremony Rehearsal
Rehearsals are not included in the price of a wedding ceremony. Not everyone has a rehearsal or needs me at the rehearsal. If you already know the confirmed start time of your rehearsal you can book now. If you do not know, contact me and we can set up a package.
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Diversity Statement We are open to marrying any couple. It is our goal to meet each couple where they are and help them to have a positive wedding experience. In order to meet you where you are, we approach every wedding with an open mind - we don’t know anything about you until you tell us and that’s only if you choose to tell us. Wedding ceremony scripts have been written for years for brides and grooms. Now, bride and bride or groom and groom are very common. Some couples are choosing to forego traditional gender roles altogether and are using the terms spouse or partner. If you have made the choice to use non-traditional pronouns, please let us know, and we will be happy to honor your preferences. Any wedding ceremony script can be changed to reflect those personal preferences.